“Your ability to deal with the failure will determine how much you get to deal with success.” – Dan Kennedy
We’ve all been through it along with the baggage it brings: It’s painful, embarrassing, and leaves you vulnerable. Oftentimes, men imagine the worst possible scenario imaginable like some girl screaming, “Ew! Fuck off, creep!” or “NO! GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME!”, while dozens of bystanders stare in awe, shaking their heads in disbelief.
Yeah, I feel you.
Lately, especially while cold approaching during day game, these thoughts flood my mind.
What’s really the worst that can happen?
Yes, harsh rejections will occur every once in a while, but from many men’s experiences, it’s surprising how many women will respond with attraction to nothing other than a man who is bold and willing to stick his neck out.
A lot of men (myself included) assume that directly approaching a woman, telling my truth to her, will invite a mountain of rejections onto them. The surprising thing is this is rarely the case. If you’re bold and downright blunt about your intentions (ie. you’re cute and I wanted to meet you), she will respect that.
Ironically, most of the harshest rejections come from being needy, over-investing, and performing for a woman.
So next time, when you’re patrolling the mall, club, or any popular social outlet, remember to invest very little in women. Like Roosh V and many others within the PUA community state: It’s a numbers game. Move on, accept rejection as a positive thing (Hey, you two were incompatible anyway. Saves you the time and effort to try and win her over), and immediately scope your next target.
Happy hunting, gentlemen.
Holy fuck, this is going to be a memorable journey for sure.
So, I was reading Models by Mark Manson and he stated I must be direct, honest, and most importantly, vulnerable with my advances. What does that mean exactly? That means I should walk up to a woman, having low investment in her, and tell her the truth: “Hey, what’s your name? You’re beautiful and I wanted to meet you.”
There is no acting.
There is no preperation.
This is balls to the wall, I look and immediately approach, spewing my true feelings without hesitation.
To achieve non-neediness and not care if she becomes Responsive or Non-Responsive.
I will apply Mark’s advice from now on.
Shit is about to go down.
PS: This is on page 79 of Models. Read it. Love it. Learn it.
Verdict: A learning experience.
I didn’t get any numbers, but I learned three valuable lessons during my first day game:
a.) There’s a massive difference between game theory and actual game in-field. I thought I was prepared, but in actuality, I wasn’t.
b.) Don’t be super proactive. I learned this the first time I hit Kress Nightclub: The more proactive and goal oriented I am, the worse my results will be. Today’s day game reaffirmed that.
I discovered the best way to game is to remain calm. Yes, have an agenda, but don’t try too hard to persue it. Let it flow naturally. Do not overprepare. Do not obsessively think about game. Be natural.
c.) Who the fuck cares what these bitches think? In the back of my mind, I was anxious about approaching – especially during the first half dozen cold approaches. It wasn’t until I asked myself, “Why do I give a fuck what these bitches think?” the correct alpha mindset kicked in.
Remember these three points for game on Sunday at downtown Yuma.
This will be a very brief report as it wasn’t too eventful.
In any other case, I reunited with two people – Miguel and Rebeckah – old classmates from Carpe Diem. I talked with Rebeckah and got her number (for a later bang). I wouldn’t personally call her attractive, a 6.5 at most, sporting freckles, red hair, and pale skin. A ginger.
Miguel, on the other hand, I didn’t care for.
It was nice seeing him again, but I didn’t know him too well.
- Got Rebeckah’s number. I’m debating if I should text her or not.
- Played it casual. I discovered when I’m not proactive or setting a goal to get at least one number, I usually accomplish more.
- Didn’t approach enough. To be honest, I should have approached alot more.
- Couldn’t carry on an interesting conversation with Rebeckah for long. I need to remember Models by Mark Manson. Be genuinely interested in her, find something in common and focus on that.
While eating at a Chinese restaurant, I opened my fortune cookie and read a quote which I personally found remarkable, yet true:
“Genius is the ability to reduce the complicated to the simple.”
I won’t interpret other memorable quotes I come across on this blog, but rather reflect and apply it’s meaning to my life.
Here are more inspirational, thought-provoking quotes:
“To women, a man with confidence is like a woman with nice tits and a perfectly sculpted ass.” -Mark Manson, Models.
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“A tiger hunts best when he’s hungry.” – Bill Bowerman
“Energy flows where attention goes.” – Tony Robbins
I’ve learned there are three main emotions us humans feel when we’re driven to complete our projects or accomplish our goals:
In this simple, yet effective approach by John Sonmez, I start by performing action. In order to change my mindset, I must act as the person I want to be (ie. the ‘ideal Adam’) by faking it until I make it. I will act as if I’m already the ideal Adam, as if I’ve already obtained true self-confidence, sporting an impressive physique, and I’m the prize in a relationship. Act as if I’m the person I want to be. This is action.
After a while, my subconscious will internalize my actions and will say, “Hey, that’s fucking weird. I thought you were a shy and socially anxious person who’s afraid of rejection.”
“But… you keep on talking to girls every single day without fear. What the fuck are you doing, dude?”
“Wait a minute…”
“This can’t be right…”
“…based on your actions, you must be a confident, alpha male!”
In the past, I erroneously believed changing my mindset through self-induced hypnotherapy, listening to self-help YouTube videos, and repeating positive affirmations will inevitably change my actions and feelings. While not completely false, and while changing my mindset can help me become confident, study longer hours, or help me hit on as many girls as I possibly can – they’re not THE definitive answer.
What has happened, however, is a temporary change of mindset. For example, let’s reflect on my attitude and personality at work. At times, particularly after consuming a caffeinated beverage (ie. Rockstar Energy Drink or Starbucks Frappe), I get a dopamine rush. All of a sudden, I’m happy, I playfully tease my co-workers, speak to patients in a pleasant, calm, and slow tone, and if they’re attractive women, my voice deepens and I get into my “ideal Adam” persona.
Now, to be fair, this isn’t bad. Not at all.
I simply need to focus on acting out my desires instead of psyching myself up beforehand.
Just do. Don’t think. And I will eventually become whatever I desire.