Notes Regarding MENT

MENT.

Thinking about using MENT with my TRT. Here’s a few posts I found from a guy who uses MENT exclusively for the mental benefits:

My personal experience. I have run masteron up to 500mg along side test. Last use was 400/300/300 Test/NPP/Mast. I have had blood work done while on it and it did not lower my estrogen levels. It def mitigates the symptoms of high e2 but didnt lower my e2. It raised my ldl about 20-30% from a baseline and lowered my hdl significantly. It def kept me dry, elevated my aggression in and out of the gym, and made me horny af.

I have never tried any GHR peptides.

One feel good compound I can say really boosted mood, sex drive, motivation, etc.. is MENT. Running it low dose 5-10mg a day along side trt has been super beneficial and doesnt skew my bloodwork by any measure difference at those doses.

Im not a bb by any means either, just a 40 yo trying to stay in shape not get huge. Ment, tren, nandrolone are all 19-nors. I have only run tren ace once @ 300 wk. Mental sides, night sweats, appetite issues, etc turned me off of it. I have run NPP at moderate doses. Nandrolone after 8 weeks or so makes me apathetic and depressed, I have tried it a few times with the same result. Gotten decent gains. Stayed dry and kept my sex drive high running mast w/ the npp. I have run MENT ace up to 25mg a day w/ 120mg test (wkly). I have run it twice for 12 weeks and then cruised on 120mg test w/ 5mg ment in between. To me ment has all of the benefits of tren, nandro, and test with little to none of the sides. I gained way more size/fullness, vascularity on ment and test than any other compounds I have ran. Mind you my previous blasts used for comparison would be small to an experienced gym rat.

I dont bloat from it. I have no need for and ai on it. Up to 25mg a day anyways, thats the max I took it. Appetite is crazy, killer sex drive, killer gains, great recovery, feel great mentally, a calm focus. I can grind through workouts on it like a madman. Its worth researching for a possible run.

I mean you get used to feeling a certain way, so after a while thats your new “norm”. I would say cycling it would help you hold on to that mental feel. For the 12 week runs at higher does I stayed driven the entire time, workouts were awesome, sex life on point, etc. cruising on it I just feel more upbeat, easier to engage, more focused. That stuff seems to shave stuck around if I think about it.

I inject all compounds im using 28g 1/2″ insulin pins. I pin the ment ace daily, shallow im. When I first started it, i started low and was titrating up; I actually injected twice a day. I was trying to be careful with it and monitor for sides like gyno and bp issues. But they never came. R/steroids has a really good compound wiki that explains ment in great detail. That really swayed me into trying it after a few months of researching it.

I Am Going On TRT

Whelp, ladies and gents. I’m going on testosterone replacement therapy.

I made a post a few days ago on Reddit asking about TRT and social confidence with girls.

Decided to go to a TRT clinic to check my testosterone levels yesterday… and I got results back today. My fucking testosterone is 113 ng/dl with almost ZERO estrogen. My doc said instead of the .75ml they instruct patients, I need the full ml for the test cyp they’re shipping me tomorrow… and not to take the AI they provided me. Not yet anyway.

Damn, didn’t expect I’d have such low test as a 29 year old male.

Looking back, I believe it stems from a traumatic event which occurred May of this year. My best friend died of cardiomyopathy. It hit me how fast life can flash before your eyes – it can happen to you, your family, your neighbor across the street today, tomorrow, or hell, 50 years from now – and you can’t control it.

Once I realized that, I started developing panic attacks, obsessive compulsive thinking, mild depression, and my sex drive took a fuckin dive.

I still work out at the gym, hit up girls in the club, and whatnot. But not due to motivation (never relied on it anyway, it’s so fleeting), but moreso it’s routine for me

However…

I can use this to my advantage game-wise.

Apparently, testosterone sharply rises 24 hours after intramuscular injection, before slowly declining within the span of a week. At day 7, I should be at 600 ng/dl according to More Plates, More Dates.

What does this mean exactly?

My most game heavy days are Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Three full days hitting both day and night game venues fuckin’ HARD.

If I inject 12PM Thursday afternoon, my testosterone levels will have spiked to near supraphysiological ranges by Friday. I will project FAR stronger sexual intent, more drive, focus to bang my girl, etc at the clubs.

Therefore, I’ve made an injection schedule fitting a pickup artist.

Testosterone Cypionate HCG
200mg (Thursday @ 12PM) .25ml (Tuesday & Wednesday @ 12PM)
  • Take Ashwagandha 2 pills/AM
  • Multivitamin & Probiotic gummies/AM
  • Take Krill Oil at lunch time
  • Continue taking lisinopril at night
  • Once 12/23/21 hits, include weight loss cycle

Balance, Centeredness is the Key to True Presence

… And awareness is not enough.

On Tuesday, 11/16/21, I ventured off to Downtown Chicago once again with the intent of practicing projecting sexual intent + being present in the moment. Like most game sessions, things didn’t go as planned. I was aware, yes, of my cold fingers in the winter Chicago wind, of the sounds of the train, the people around me, but I wasn’t centered.

As James Marshall states, “Step one is awareness. Step two is being centered, balanced despite adversity. If you only do step one, you aren’t truly aware.”

When I was day gaming today, I wasn’t pleased with my situation – the cold wind, the darkness of Chicago winter, being bored of hitting up Mag Mile every game session – and consequently, I wasn’t centered.

IMPORTANT: Once again, I was aware. But not centered.

Even now as I type this, my cat is yowling at me to be let outside. Will I stop what I’m doing and tend to him? No, that would be me breaking concentration – ie. centeredness – and letting the ego wrestle back control.

Same thing happened at my day game session.

I got blown out a few times since my mind was wandering a bit. The cold Chicago wind, being too dark at 5pm, the fact I’ve been taking trains like half my day game session to get a new experience, etc.

I let my desires toss me to and fro and not FOCUS on the true objective of the day: Approach girls. Instadate them.

IMPORTANT: If I get rejected, blown out, whatever accept the situation, don’t let it affect the day, all in all, be balanced, centered and continue on.

Why am I writing this blog post?

Because at the end of my day game session, once I accepted that I’m out here, approaching girls, and not let my prior blow-outs get to me, I instantly gained more presence.

I met this cute Latina who was drawn to my sexual projection. I was focused, she knew I wanted her. This was after I accepted the situ and surrendered to day game. While my verbals weren’t on point completely, I was able to intrigue + hook the set due to pure presence and sexual intent.

This is exactly what James Marshall means by centeredness.

It’s the HARD PART of meditation.

Awareness is relatively easy in comparison.

Treat All Pain As Pure Sensation, But The Mind Is A Tricky Bastard

My present moment awareness meditation is growing stronger, but I must remember it is an inner game skillset. And just like game, you regress to a prior level before hitting a new – and improved – baseline.

On 11/11/21, Thursday, I meditated once again in the shower. I was able to easily transmute itches, pain, etc into pure, objective sensation. However, my ego sought to desperately regain control by operating on the subconscious level.

You see, I didn’t actively think about anything during my meditation; all conscious thoughts were dismissed as my monkey mind playing games trying to escape the boredom of focusing on one single thing at a time.

So, it stopped.

Instead, it started by playing a piano tune I heard a few hours ago in the back of my head.

It wasn’t in the forefront, but rather, a background noise that refused to stop.

I won’t fight it.

The only thing I can do is realize what it is – a distraction of the ego trying to wrestle back control via the back door – and IMPORTANT refocus 100% on whatever sensation I’m feeling.

This is my new goal.

Complete and total awareness

100%

No fucks given

True Awareness Is Accomplished Through Pain

As I type this in the shower, I can feel the cold water wash under me. An itch threatens to break my concentration, but I realize it is nothing but pure sensation. It is neither good, nor bad. It just is.

There is no better way to write this post than in an environment that demands I react.

To scratch an itch. To move from the hard, cold shower floor to the comfortableness of my gaming chair.

It is the ego attempting to wrestle back control of true presence. True Awareness that I sought so long after.

I am centered, balanced as I type this.

Yesterday, I wondered why I wasn’t truly present in the moment. This is why. The real challenge of refocusing your energy, to see if you’re truly giving it your 100% is to be non-reactive.

If you scratch that itch, the ego has reclaimed you.

You lose a little bit of presence each time you react.

Instead, go into the pain, the itch, the uncomfortableness, and realize it is pure sensation.

Vocalize it if you have to.

Just realize, the more you accept and do not react, the more presence goes into you.

You are not meditating if you are simply aware of everything around you. That is simply the first step.

You must finalize it with the second step and become centered, unreactive, and transform the negative or positive into neutral. To your rambling, ADHD mind and sit through the pain.

Remember

An itch is pure sensation.

Panic, fear, anxiety is pure emotion.

Random thoughts is the adhd, monkey brain doing its own thing.

Your most insightful, breaktaking insights only come with pain.

At the end, you will thank yourself for it.

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What does this mean game wise?

Before you send that text, go into deep awareness meditation -> refocus into optimal text game.

Before you go out infield, take a shower in late afternoon (ie. 3pm) -> go into deep awareness meditation -> go out and meditate on train.

How To Use The True Power of Present Moment Awareness

The man himself.

On Sunday, 11/07/21, I was heading to Downtown Chicago on the Red Line. I decided to pop on James Marshall and The Natural Lifestyles podcast instead of my usual Eckhart Tolle. I’m so glad I did. James spoke of what he calls “practical meditation”, and how to utilize awareness in all situations in life.

There were a few key principles I learned:

  1. Non-attachment: Stressors come into my life. Whether it be from a hot girl, a shaky train, to a mere itch. The idea isn’t to let it affect you. It is what it is. Objectively understand what it is and leave it at that. Most guys react to shit. If a girl rejects them -> they feel terrible -> let it affect them the entire night/day.
  2. Getting Out of Your Head Via Adjusting Your Focus: Lots of guys try getting out of their head by logically analyzing what happened or simply telling themselves to get out of their head. As Todd V states, this is the worst thing to do, since ironically, telling yourself to get out of your head puts you into your head!

    This has two steps (+1 extra):

    a.) A direction of concentration and focus: For example, if you pinch your fingers, you redirect your attention from your head -> your slightly painful fingertip. Now my focus is somewhere else. I have to direct my concentration to somewhere else instead of my monkey mind thoughts which jump from branch to branch, from thought to thought to do whatever it wants.

    However, that alone isn’t meditation.

    b.) Remain balanced, objective, and non-reactive: I’m observing something, yet allowing it to be as it is. For example, when I’m meditating let’s see a loud noise startles me, or I’ve got a pain in my lower back, if I go out to rub my back or check out the noise, those are reactions starting to happen. I need to sit there and feel the pain or let the noise run it’s course without curiously checking it out.

    Instead, just put your mind deep into the sensation or into the noise and sit there. Don’t give an opinion (ie. “Oh, this is irritating, what is it?”, “I want to get rid of it.”). Just observe it as pure sensation. It’s not good. It’s not bad. It just is.

    c.) Women Are Not The Enemy: Okay, I lied, this one wasn’t on the TNL podcast, but something I realized while day gaming. For me, pickup has always been an adventure. It’s like you’re playing a custom character on an MMORPG. You gain experience, passive abilities, active abilities via how much work you put in. Thing is though, women are seen as an opponent you “level” yourself up with.

    This is going to sound strange – and probably won’t resonate with most of you – but once I switched gears and saw women as individuals who, too, want to meet a cool, sexy guy to fall for or to be loved, I started getting much better results.

    Women are people, too. Not an enemy or adversary to overcome.

11/07/21 – The True Power of Present Moment Awareness

On 11/07/21, Sunday, I ventured off to Downtown Chicago with Chris after a looooong night game session on Saturday. I literally woke up at 3PM, before getting ready to hit the streets. However, when I was on the train, I decided to pop on James Marshall and The Natural Lifestyles podcast instead of my usual Eckhart Tolle. I’m so glad I did. James spoke of what he calls “practical meditation”, and how to utilize awareness in all situations in life.

There were a few key principles I learned:

  1. Non-attachment: Stressors come into my life. Whether it be from a hot girl, a shaky train, to a mere itch. The idea isn’t to let it affect you. It is what it is. Objectively understand what it is and leave it at that. Most guys react to shit. If a girl rejects them -> they feel terrible -> let it affect them the entire night/day.
  2. Getting Out of Your Head Via Adjusting Your Focus: Lots of guys try getting out of their head by logically analyzing what happened or simply telling themselves to get out of their head. As Todd V states, this is the worst thing to do, since ironically, telling yourself to get out of your head puts you into your head!

    This has two steps (+1 extra):

    a.) A direction of concentration and focus: For example, if you pinch your fingers, you redirect your attention from your head -> your slightly painful fingertip. Now my focus is somewhere else. I have to direct my concentration to somewhere else instead of my monkey mind thoughts which jump from branch to branch, from thought to thought to do whatever it wants.

    However, that alone isn’t meditation.

    b.) Remain balanced, objective, and non-reactive: I’m observing something, yet allowing it to be as it is. For example, when I’m meditating let’s see a loud noise startles me, or I’ve got a pain in my lower back, if I go out to rub my back or check out the noise, those are reactions starting to happen. I need to sit there and feel the pain or let the noise run it’s course without curiously checking it out.

    Instead, just put your mind deep into the sensation or into the noise and sit there. Don’t give an opinion (ie. “Oh, this is irritating, what is it?”, “I want to get rid of it.”). Just observe it as pure sensation. It’s not good. It’s not bad. It just is.

    c.) Women Are Not The Enemy: Okay, I lied, this one wasn’t on the TNL podcast, but something I realized while day gaming. For me, pickup has always been an adventure. It’s like you’re playing a custom character on an MMORPG. You gain experience, passive abilities, active abilities via how much work you put in. Thing is though, women are seen as an opponent you “level” yourself up with.

    This is going to sound strange – and probably won’t resonate with most of you – but once I switched gears and saw women as individuals who, too, want to meet a cool, sexy guy to fall for or to be loved, I started getting much better results.

    Women are people, too. Not an enemy or adversary to overcome.

Once I did my exercises with James Marshall, I felt unusually aware, like everything was radiant. I was walking up the steps, thinking about my next course of action. Namely, find Chris. That’s all that was in my head. It was singular, focused. I didn’t think about pickup, nor the happenings around me. Just the fact I needed to find my wing.

After we met up, I told my brain, “What are you doing right this very second? You’re approaching girls.” Gears switched.

Which leads into the field report itself…

Approach #1The Czech Bartender

Synopsis: Literally less than a minute, I adjusted my focus to pickup, and I ran into this hard HB 7, 30 y/o, Czech bartender who tends to a high class bar/club in River North. I opened her with, “Excuse me, you have the most elegant, sexiest outfit I’ve seen all day.” Basic as hell, but my delivery was fucking mint. She felt my presence radiating through her, as I projected sexual intent hard.

In 30 seconds, I began leading her forward.

This was totally subconscious. It felt like a whirlwind of old skills started flooding back to me right at that very moment.

My next objective shifted to one word: Instadate.

As fate had it, we were coming across this extra boujie Starbucks with a rooftop bar. Once I spotted it a block away, I asked if she was a fun, spontaneous girl. She immediately nodded and it was incredibly simple leading her into the Starbucks.

Dude, I wish I had this all recorded, but everything came out so fucking smooth. Like, my push-pulls, qualifiers, leading, everything was on point. I gave off this sexual, fuckboy vibe and she ate it right off my hand. At this point, approximately an hour in, she did 90% of the talking, and I responded in a calibrated, yet high value manner.

We ordered our drinks (I, a Manhattan and she, an Espresso Martini), as I kept running game subconsciously. However, if I had to point exactly where I fucked up in set, it’s this part: At the latter half in set, I gave off a strong fuckboy vibe, in which my target responded: “I’m not looking for anything romantic.” God, I took her at face-value. Like, I didn’t see it then, but after pinging Chris and u/fastlife15, they were like: “Bro, she just wants dick. This is a shit test. Just tell her you’re not BF material. It’s easy to pass.”

Fuuuuuuck.

I’m not beating myself up, but this didn’t register at all when I was with my girl. Still, I did extraordinarily good, and I’m proud of myself for running nearly flawless game.

At the end of the set, I took her number and bounced to find Chris.

She’s texting me back hella fuckin fast.

What I Did Right:

Fucking Everything: I ran flawless game. Push-pulls, qualifiers, projecting sexual intent, establishing a Man-to-Woman premise, everything was on point. Like, no hiccups. It’s like everything I knew months prior just came flooding back to me in this set. IMPORTANT: All because I was truly present in the moment after priming myself with practical awareness meditation with James Marshall.

Sticking Points:

Not Passing The Romantic Shit Test: Like I said – I ain’t beatin’ myself up for failing to pick up on the shit test, but it’s an invaluable learning lesson I won’t fail next time. If she throws that line at me, just say, “Ya that’s cool, I’m not exactly boyfriend material.”

Didn’t Bring A Fucking Recorder!: While failing to notice the romantic shit test is my first mistake, my second was not bringing an audio recorder. Tbh, I woke up at 3PM on Sunday and I honestly thought I was going to grind it out again in Downtown Chicago. Boy, was I fuckin’ wrong.

What I’ll Do Next Time:

Do Present Moment Awareness W/ James Marshall On Train (aka Practical Meditation): Eckhart Tolle opened my mind to the concept of mindfulness and present moment awareness, but James Marshall showed me the true power of now.

I won’t listen to music, audiobooks, or “practice” being present in the moment by looking aimlessly out the Red Line without thinking.

I will teach myself how to adjust my concentration and focus, while remaining balanced, objective, and non-reactive.

Comments: As you know, presence is the foundation of great game.

11/05/21 – Push It To the Limit (NG)

On Friday, 11/05/21, since Chris wasn’t able to make it to Chicago and the fact I had a major upgrade at work on Saturday which required my full attention, I figured it was best to run night game on Friday. Unfortunately, I’m not able to day game on Saturday, but that’s totally fine. I initially went out with bad inner game, got blown out a few times, before nailing a set which taught me soooo much about gaming in the night trenches.

At the end, I had a blast, and the reference experience I picked up will propel me forward to further learning night game in the upcoming months.

Approach #1The Boujie Dallas Girl

Synopsis: I’d say 2 hours after hitting the clubs in River North, I ran into this HB 7, 30 y/o, half latina / half black chick who was dressed hella boujie. I’m talking beret, wool coat, etc. She looked like she stepped outta the plane from Paris directly to Chicago lol. Super white-washed. Visually, I’d say she best looked like Hannah John-Kamen with an upbeat, positive personality, but a strong frame.

After teasing my target about her dress-up, she took it with stride and immediately we began vibing. Our chemistry was on-point, but I felt like at certain times, I was projecting too much value. I felt this was wasn’t an issue since I was operating during night game; but in hindsight, I def should have dialed it back a bit. Still, I did soooo many things right that night. I performed way, way better than I anticipated due to a few reasons:

a.) The scene: I thoroughly enjoy classy venues which play deep house music. Maybe it’s cuz I’m older idk, but when I’m around more sophisticated, middle upper class people I do better in set. Compare that to college bars or Top 40s clubs where I won’t do as well.

b.) Her vibe: I think because my subcomms were on-point and she was in a super upbeat mood, our energies meshed in sync. It’s nice meeting a girl you vibe with so easily.

I’ll include a big list of what I did right in set on the below section, but after hitting the streets of River North, I tried pulling her to my apartment despite the fact logistics were fuuuuucked. I was roughly 25-30 minutes away from my apartment and I made the mistake telling my girl I lived in Chicago.

When it comes to meeting girls at bars / clubs in River North, its best I tell them I’m visiting Milwaukee so I can reserve my hotel room at a moment’s notice in the bathroom or something.

At the end of the night, I tried seeding the pull, leading my target to another venue, trying to find logistics on her apartment (she was bunked with a business partner–so kinda fucked that end, too), etc.

Unfortunately, at that time, she inherently knew I was trying to close hard. Like, I was tryna push the set as far as humanly possible and she knew this. At the end, she took my number and the set ended.

What I Did Right:

– Qualifiers: I qualified my target a fuckton. Granted, I ran a slew of push-pulls, too. But I relied moreso on getting my girl to qualify compared to mere push-pulls. Tho I feel like my girl ate up my fun, flirty push-pulls better than my qualifiers. Nevertheless, I increased my value in my girl’s eyes, which allowed me to pull off higher investment strategies like leading, tryna bar hop with my girl, etc.

In a matter of fact, my value got so high she started buying me drinks. Like, shots of fireballs + chasers together. I was a little surprised!

– Leading (Despite Strong Frame): My girl had a seriously strong frame. After speaking to u/fastlife15, he states it’s because she’s 30. She’s had her fun times and now she knows what she wants. If she was 7 years younger, it’d be a done deal and she’d be in my bed next to me chilling. Anyway, I led her outside to smoke, but I mainly moved her around from spot to spot or made her comply with my commands.

– Fun, Playful Vibe: I had a suuuuuper fun, playful vibe with my girl. Like, more than I’d usually run in a day or night setting. Thing is, she ran in sync with my energy and we totally had a great time. It didn’t feel like pickup — and when I did have to run technical game, I was able to easily stop -> shut off my brain -> determine the next best course of action.

– Subtle Premise Early On: I subtly inserted premise by utilizing the we frame (ie. “cheers to the two coolest people in the bar”, I feel like you’d be the crazy one in the relationship, etc), projecting sexual intent on and off, “I feel like you’re a bad influence, nothing is going to happen tonight”, and allowing her to comfortably sink in how much of a cool, sexy Asian dude I am.

– Rejuvenating the Set: Every time my target had to hit the restroom, she was given ample opportunity to engage her business partner who was supposed to hit her up tonight. But apparently she’s a boring bitch so she met this certain cool, sexy Asian dude instead. Nevertheless, when she popped out of the restroom, she’d be noticeably more chill, logical compared to before she hit the restroom.

At multiple instances, she was debating on heading back to her hotel room with her business partner.

All I had to do was ran a more calibrated, fun high energy game + qualifiers before she threw that idea out the window.

Sticking Points:

– Too Much Kino: At the middle of the set, I decided doing a little kino was a bright idea to convey intent. And to be fair, it was. I wrapped my arm around her for a few seconds before letting go (and finding out she had straight-up hard abs), pulled her close to me a few times, and allowing her to lean in. She grinded up to me for a few mins while dancing, but I felt like it was a bit much.

I was riding on the validation while sacrificing good game imo.

Yes, kino is an excellent tool, but too much can hurt the set.

– Followed Her Frame: As stated in the beginning, my girl had a hella strong frame. A few times, she made the call as to what we should do, and I kinda just followed. I inherently knew this was a bad idea, but I felt like she qualified enough so some qualifying on my part was acceptable.

– Semi Late Premise: At first, I ran a fun, playful vibe without injecting premise. Next, I went with a more subtle approach, but I felt like I should have inserted a bit more of an overt premise early on in the interaction so I can set the Man-to-Woman dynamic right from the start.

What I’ll Do Next Time:

– Inject More Comfort: I was 90% value, 20% comfort. This is primarily due to the fact I’m operating in a night setting vs day where it’d be 80% comfort, 20% value. I def need to adjust my percentages for night game lol. Maybe if I added just a little more comfort, a little more interpersonal interaction, I’d have a better set overall.

– Add Premise Earlier: This. Depending on the girl’s vibe and BT, I’d shoot for overt premise (NOT intent) or subtle premise. In this situ, def overt > subtlety. Girls hitting 30 and over aren’t ones for player antics. Game is absolutely required, but not the value-based tactics required for early 20-something year olds.

Comments: This was a crucial positive reference experience which boosted my learning curve during night game. Remember, when all seems lost, when you’re tired, weary and just want to hit the bed — just keep going. Fate rewards the strong.

11/04/21 – The Return of Qualifiers and Leading

On 11/04/21, Tuesday, I decided to hit up University of Chicago in Hyde Park. It’s def A- or B+ tier. The college has hotter girls and it’s incredibly spacious and feels super insular. It’s one of those universities you can approach a girl and never see her twice.

Anyway, after reading u/fastlife15’s comments on my last FR, he was absolutely right I needed to focus exclusively on subcomms and qualifiers + leading. I particularly liked this post:

“If you look at most of my openers, it’s pretty much: force a girl to qualify. Most of my follow-up is force a girl to qualify, force a girl to qualify, force a girl to qualify. Breaking rapport = forcing a girl to qualify. Cold reads = forcing a girl to qualify. Asking qualification questions = forcing a girl to qualify. Setting strong frames = forcing a girl to qualify. Complimenting a girl on a specific quality = forcing a girl to qualify. Empathizing with the girl = forcing a girl to qualify. I just go in assuming that I have enough value to force a girl to qualify–and that’s true like 95% of the time and the other 5% of the time I just have to spike it or DHV a little just by talking/acting in a way that I’m already entitled to the girl.”

For inner game, I’ve been focused on being grounded, present in the moment while calibrating the right vibe and frame depending on the girl. It’s been an ongoing journey of self-trust.

Meanwhile, a few weeks back, I refocused my outer game on opening targets without consciously pre-planning my opener (ie. “You have the most NYC look ever”). Consequently, my opens are much more fluid. I’ve used on-the-spot openers like, “Excuse me, I adore how you styled your hair. It’s hella wavy and makes you look like a cat-walk model.” Shit I couldn’t come up with if I pre-planned it.

However, I think it’s time I switched gears and relearn an old, yet incredibly powerful outer game skillset I absolutely fucking love: Qualifying + leading.

Technically, they belong in the same ballpark, since they both require a girl to invest time and energy into you, but leading is such a powerful tool, it merits it’s own section.

At the University of Chicago, I did an approach worth logging.

Approach #1The Louisiana Art Student

Synopsis: After arriving at UoC a few hours late (missed my train lol), I ran into this cute, hard HB 6 – soft HB 7, pink haired art student sporting a boujie white dress shirt and skirt. Set lasted 5 minutes, but I felt entitled since my energy levels ran high and it was my first set of the day.

I opened her with, “Excuse me, I know this is super random, but I totally adore how you did your hair. It just screams I’m a hipster from Oregon to me.”

She fuckin’ loved it. Given I was running a more grounded, masculine, yet fun subcomm, she began explaining her apparel design. In which I qualified her and hoped she wasn’t a pretentious boujie art student. She swore she wasn’t, but since emotions + vibe was running high, I asked if she was heading behind me. Once I got confirmation, I began leading her in the right direction.

Overall, the set was going good, but in hindsight, I made two mistakes:

a.) As time passed on, I became more visibly excited. It wasn’t because I was vibing with my target, but rather, I was reminded of how I ran game prior to moving to Missouri. It was as if my skillset was returning simply by not being consciously aware of it – and trusting myself completely.

And as Julian states, “The one who is more excited, more enthusiastic in set, is the one with lower value.”

b.) I seeded the close by talking about coffee, but the set ended prematurely since I kept qualifying/push-pulling her without getting to the point. After a while, it became a little weird and she said she had to go study. It didn’t help the fact that two strangers walked right out the door and sat next to the steps while I was gaming the girl. Let’s just say I missed a pretty good opportunity that won’t happen again.

What I Did Right:

Leading: After I built value / a little rapport with my target, I knew I had to be the man in the situ and begin leading. I asked her if she was heading in the direction she was, well, heading and she agreed. It didn’t matter what direction she was heading off to, as long as I took the frame and told her to walk together with me.

Qualifiers: Off the top of my head, I challenged my target based on her choice of coffee, the fact I’m disappointed she’s a Southern girl without a southern accent, that art students can be boring and pretentious and I hoped she was a fun person, and a few others I may have forgotten about.

I’m definitely seeing a strong uptick in qualifiers which I previously used push-pulls for with much better results. Next time, try and calibrate my qualifiers after amassing value in the girl’s eyes and cashing it out. Use it if your gut tells you to, but if possible, build up that “value bank account” before spending whole sale, so to speak.

Strong, Fun Frame: My frame was fuckin’ solid. I’m at the point of my pickup journey, where my once strong frame is re-emerging. Thing is, it’s only strong for the first two sets before my energy levels start depleting. After that, I become more or less a normal dude. If I keep persisting, hitting the streets day in and day out, while practicing my frame, I’ll always be “on”.

Sticking Points:

See Synopsis.

What I’ll Do Next Time:

Keep Qualifying, Leading: This. My default are push-pulls to build value since they’re easy to do on-the-spot. No brain power required. It’s a simple formula of compliment with a slight negative spike. However, qualifiers require actual investment (ie. heeding your commands, explaining herself, etc) from the girl.

IMPORTANT: Remember, use push-pulls sparsely to build up value, but rely on other avenues like holding a masculine frame, teasing, being playful, before cashing it out with qualifiers.

Be Calm, Grounded, An Active Listener… No Matter How Good The Set Is Going: Yes, it’s fucking awesome getting a girl into you with verbals + dominant gestures/body language. But you can easily lose the set if she determines you’re of lower value compared to her.

It’s important to remember not to get overexcited.

Be a calm, grounded individual. An active listener when she speaks.

Match her energy level or below. Let HER get excited over YOU.

Not the other way around.

Comments: It can only get better, brutha

11/02/21 – The Importance Of How Sexy You Really Are

On Tuesday, 11/02/21, I decided to venture off to Logan Square after “advisement” from r/Chicago here. The normies were right. The neighborhood is lined up with tons of coffee shops and a decent amount of street traffic. Mainly hipster / young professional women. Interestingly enough, they’re unusually more receptive compared to most of the Chicago districts I’ve gamed in.

Unfortunately, my sets last 10-30 seconds at most. This is primarily due to the fact I’m not as grounded or present as I’d like to have been today.

My best stratagem moving forward is to get off at California (Blue Line) and pace up and down Milwaukee Ave. Gator around coffee shops and bars. Traffic is ample enough to get my sets in.

… If you can withstand the Chicago winter, that is.

But enough of that.

Due to negative inner game creeping in due to tragic events outside of game, my pickup skills aren’t up to par as they used to be. I know that and I’m working toward fixing up what Julian calls “trauma energy”.

It’s been affecting my game and it’s been a slow road back to my prior skillset.

However, today I challenged myself and accomplished an approach I didn’t think I’d do.

Approach #1The Hipster Art Student On Train

Synopsis: After I decided to eject out of Logan Square since I wanted to find a more target rich environment, I met this adorable brunette sporting short wavy hair. She looked like a librarian based on how she wore her outfit. Very cute. She was adjacent to me and even though I peered at her, before looking away, I never ran game on a train before.

It felt awkward since she was trapped without any meaningful way to exit if she just wasn’t into me or I made a mistake in my game which prematurely ended the set.

Sooooo… I sat there, right next to my target, for about 10-15 minutes.

Fuck it, I minus well get the reference experience, I thought before opening my target.

Aaaaand she was hella receptive.

Like, I talked about this to u/fastlife15 and he said what I did took massive balls, hence why attraction sparked in my girl. Celebrate my reference experience since I can open hotter girls next time I go out – but most importantly, if I want to succeed at this, practice closing with certainty.

I’m glad I did the approach, but I made a few fatal errors which cost me the set. For example, I was too platonic. Yes, I threw out a few premise statements and made her qualify a few times. But her responses felt too friendly. In hindsight, I didn’t project sexual intent, nor did I let her know I was a man who desired her. In words, yes. But that’s not enough. I needed her to feel strong, masculine sexual and fun energy radiate into her.

Hence why I’m focusing on inner game vs outer game.

The set ended since her stop was a few minutes away and I didn’t even number close.

Sticking Points:

Too Platonic: This stems from entitlement issues again. Once I recognized how receptive my target was, I slipped into friend zone mode. It felt like two strangers talking to each other since they’re coincidentally on the same train. Yes, I threw out a token push-pull, perhaps a few go-to qualifiers I utilize in set, but it didn’t have that oomph behind it. No sexy eye stare, no I-want-you gestures or body language.

Didn’t Number Close: As Todd – and virtually every PUA states – always be closing. It didn’t matter if my value/comfort wasn’t high enough, nor the fact it may not have been a solid number. It’s always good practice to play to win, and this situ, that meant number closing.

What I Did Right:

Train Approach: I’ve had multiple opportunities to approach women on the Red Line, but I never made a solid effort to do so. This is primarily due to three reasons:

a.) Time constraints: A girl is typically on the Red Line or any of the CTA trains for approximately 10-15 minutes, possibly less. If I ran hella solid game, yeah, I could make that # count. But I can’t instadate or push the set as far as humanly possible. All I can do is # close.

b.) No Escape: If shit goes South or if the girl just isn’t into me, she has no where to go. While I can bask in awkwardness thanks to my training as a pickup artist, it’s highly unlikely a girl could.

c.) Loud: Especially once the train zooms down tunnels. There was multiple times in set I could barely hear what my target was saying.

However, I didn’t let those three points stop me. It’s not the train approach itself per se, it’s the fact I was willing to push past my comfort zone and completed the set despite mental obstacles.

“Rambling”: Rambling is a Roosh V term. Other PUAs call it “free association”. I was able to hook off my target’s verbals and continue the conversation while injecting a meaningful statement here and there. My verbals can only improve if I stick to game.

What I’ll Do Next Time:

Hold Frame: If we really narrowed down my sticking point, I wasn’t entitled, nor presented myself as a confident, sexy guy who graced my girl on the train. It was slightly awkward, but I was moreso a normal dude who mustered up the strength to say hello.

That won’t happen next time.

Hold frame. Tease her. Want her. Let her know what the fuck is up.

Project Sexual Intent: I know I won’t be able to inherently project sexual intent like I did prior to Missouri, but it’s time I flex those muscles again. If I can’t project my desire to a girl, verbalize it. Say premise-y lines or intent based on how I’m vibing with my target. Try to give her that ‘I want to fuck you’ look at least once in set.

Qualifiers: In my experience, qualifiers are far more powerful than push-pulls. I just keep going back to push-pulls since they’re easier to build up value. Only use it to amp up attraction, before cashing out on said attraction by having her qualify a fuckton + lead. Best way to keep a girl interested and in set.

Comments: As Roosh states, “Do not stop. Just keep going”.