I’m taking RSD Max’s The Natural online course and one of the lessons involved is taking a shameless self-assessment which points out where I am in my pick-up skill set. Let’s take a look at his questions:
1.) Where am I in this journey? / Success with women? (How did any success happen?) So far, I have gotten 6 phone numbers through direct game. Most of the time, they’re flakes, but I do have text conversations with a few girls. Unfortunately, I have not gained a single notch nor date in this entire process.
All of these numbers were gained via direct cold approaches with me having anxiety during my initial approach. At first, the approach anxiety was really bad, with me stuttering or asking “interview questions” (I still do) with my approaches, but since my last 30 or so cold approaches, it’s been lessening.
2.) How do I come across to people? It depends on what I’m doing, where I’m at, and how I’m feeling. If I’m at work, I come across as the guy who says or does stupid shit. Hell, even lazy even though I work relatively hard.
When I cold approach, it varies heavily on my mood, if I’m “in the zone” or if it’s my first or fifth approach. Initially, I believe I come across as a strange guy who thinks some girl is attractive. Other times, I come across as a “cool dude” who girls don’t mind giving their numbers to. It really varies.
With people, I can also be a bit timid or shy if I first meet them. I also personally believe I can be arrogant at times and prefer talking about myself compared to letting other people speak if I’m deep in a conversation. I seriously need to tone that down. Become more cool, calm, and collected instead.
3.) What is my personality like? As a person, I’m introverted, but speak my mind. If someone asks me about an opinion on something, I’ll tell them the truth. I’m persistent. I will complete my goal even if I feel burned out. I’m very schedule reliant. I’m aware I should be approaching women everywhere I see one, but if I’m not on my “approach schedule”, I won’t approach.
I get in my head too much. I mentally tell myself “she’s not hot enough”, “the circumstances aren’t right to approach this girl”, etc as excuses not to approach a woman in any given situation. Stress can also cause self-doubt in me.
While I’m getting over approach anxiety, I don’t know how to communicate during an interaction with a girl. Therefore, I ask a great many “interview style questions” until I find something we both have in common.
I can also be a people pleaser at times. If I feel like a girl likes me, I will start saying things that I believe would make her like me. This is bullshit. I should only trust and adapt the abundance mentality.
What Are My Goals?
1.) What are my short-term goals with women + people? In the short term, which I’m assuming is the next few months, I want to be able to fuck at least 1-2 women. They have to be at least a 7 or above. I won’t degrade myself any lower than that. Leave Yuma, AZ for a bigger, metropolitan city so I can rack up approaches much, much faster. I will have started my career as a Software Engineer.
I want to be able to talk to anyone in the eye and speak confidently.
1b.) What will it take to get there? Whether by statistics or mastering game, it will take dedicating myself to the art of natural game via The Natural by RSD Max or James Marshall. With people, it will involve me keeping the alpha mindset ‘on’ more often and showing no fear.
In a more solid, practical sense, I must intensely look a woman in the eyes and project my sexual intent as I speak in a slow, confident voice.
2.) What are my mid-term goals with women + people? In the mid term, which I’m assuming is the next 2-5 years, I want to have a girlfriend (or 2… or 3) and a side chick simultaneously. I want to be seen as the leader and worshiped as the guy who everyone knows and looks up to. I want to be a Social God. I also want to be working as a Software Engineer at this time. Begin learning German.
2b.) What will it take to get there? Like the point above, I would have totally surrendered my life to the art of game. Learning upon my failures and resisting the urge to give up or live a comfortable life. I must remain eternally uncomfortable and goal driven. I cannot give up. My future depends on it.
In a more solid, practical sense, I must develop a social circle of “cool guys” who I vibe with and am close friends with. Alongside cold approaching, I must additionally master social circle game and prove myself as the alpha of the pack via leading others to the next venue, deciding what we must do next, etc. This will build up my social proof and women will naturally flock to the alpha male.
When it comes to women, I will have mastered what turns women on and how to keep them. I could use amoral methods depending on what the girl requires, but it must be accomplished nevertheless.
3.) What are my mid-term goals with women + people? In the long term, which I’m assuming is 5+ years, I want to have my favorite girlfriend become my wife who is bisexual and is open to me having other women. I also want children. In the long, long term I want to retire in an Eastern European country and game to my life’s content. Master German.
3b.) What will it take to get there? It will take me saving up $100,000-$500,000 USD to retire in an Eastern European country and getting a citizenship along the way.
4.) How do I want to come across to people? Confident, leader-like, more interesting (ie. well traveled, adventurous), more empathetic (and far less arrogant), cool, calm and collected.
– I, Adam S.,
WILL DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER
TO GET MY LIFE HANDLED
TO BECOME BETTER WITH WOMEN
AND BETTER WITH PEOPLE.
I WILL LISTEN TO MY EXCUSES
AND THEN DO IT ANYWAYS.
I WILL TAKE ANY SETBACK
AS A VALUABLE LESSON
AND CONTINUE MY JOURNEY TO MASTERY
TO A BETTER SELF TO A ME 2.0
I WILL DO SOMETHING I’M AFRAID OF
EVERY FUCKING DAY.
GIVING UP IS NOT AN OPTION FOR ME.