I hate saying it, but I keep reverting back to my old Nice Guy mindset. I smile too much, I laugh or giggle when one of my co-workers mentions something. I’m acting very beta at work – much to my disadvantage. While negative repercussions haven’t occurred yet, my co-workers seem to tolerate my nice guy attitude so far. Why? Because I show weakness as a man.
In my Nice Guy mindset, I tell myself to be super positive all the time because my co-workers will love me for it. Wrong. They keep their distance from me and talk to me only when required (ie. a scrum meeting, giving me assignments, etc).
However, I can fix this.
Before I state the solution, I must note this applies strongly to game as well.
I can try to change my attitude and act alpha, pretend to be something I’m not. But as John Sonmez states, it’s like stretching a rubber band. It’s only a matter of time before it snaps back at me and I go back to my beta ways.
What I can do, however, is change my mindset – and consequently, my actions.
In the club, while day gaming, and at work, I can tell myself “What would alpha Adam do in this situation?” I need to change how I view myself, how I view the world around me, how I view relationships, etc. If I tell myself I’m entitled, I’m high status… guess what? I fucking BECOME that.
Therefore, every morning I will get rid of the Nice Guy mindset – my former nature – and put on the Alpha Adam mindset.