12/17/19 – Stay Longer in Set

After work I decided to do my daily schedule of day game sets, but due to the Holiday season, Marquette University is off-limits. However, I did three approaches at Woodman’s, a local supermarket in Wauwatosa, and Whole Foods.

I decided to perform two indirect direct and one indirect approach as instructed by Chase Amante with resounding success. All the opener is supposed to do is lead into a conversation, which occurred without any blow-outs or flat-out rejections.

Approach #1: I walked into Woodman’s, and after scouting the area for approximately 10-15 minutes, made my way to the fresh foods section. As an attractive female, possibly late 20s, passed by I raised this bottle of “Root Beer Kombucha” and asked if she knew this drink was any good.

She responded by saying she didn’t know, but that I should try it out.

I’m not going to beat myself up for letting the set go after that, but if I had to re-do that set again, I’d say I was joking with her and that I thought she was cute followed by introducing myself.

Approach #2: After wandering about for 15-20 minutes, I decided to perform the indirect direct approach. She was a blonde-haired woman, I’d estimate early 30s, attractive, but starting to age. I did my opener by saying: “Excuse me, I hate bothering you, but do you know what goes well with this?” A hold up a bag of biscuits. She turned around, looked at me, and stated: “Depends. What are you using it for?”

A paused momentarily. This is a weakness of semi-canned indirect direct responses. Wasn’t the girl supposed to go “I don’t know!” or give me a meek response? This woman was pretty confident talking to a stranger.

In any other case, I responded with: “I’m kidding. I already know what it’s used for. I actually thought you were cute and I had to say hi.”

She laughed, thanked me, but before I can utter another sentence, she walked off.

Approach #3: My final approach is my favorite one. It also taught me the most compared to the last two. I decided to drive to my local Whole Foods. Immediately, after stepping through the entrance, I see more cute girls than all of Woodsman’s combined.

The last girl was in her late 20s, cute and geeky. I pretended to examine bananas in the fresh fruit section. As the girl stepped behind me, I turned around, with a questioning expression on my face and said: “Excuse me, do you know what goes good with bananas?”

She responded with: “U-uhm… depends…”

After that, I said: “I’m just kidding. I’m not that hopeless. I actually thought you were cute and I had to say hi.”

She laughed, thanked me and stayed in set. The biggest indicator a girl likes you. I asked what she was doing at Whole Foods and she said she was preparing for a Christmas Party. I teased her about celebrating Christmas so early and we chatted for a little bit.

The thing is, she didn’t LEAVE the set. I decided to go for the close super early and asked for her number. As usual, since I didn’t spike her emotions enough nor did I develop an “it just happened” narrative with her, she told me she had a boyfriend.

What’s the biggest lesson tonight? Stay in fucking set. Display your personality. Push-pull her. Evaluate her. If I can, make a narrative and THEN get her number.

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