I admit, I had a fundamentally misunderstanding of what “getting out of my head” meant.
What I did was clear my mind of any thoughts – good or bad. What happened? My mind felt void, but I was “still in my head”, so to speak.
It felt like a numbing, empty pressure that I assumed was how I got out of my head.
I rectified this by clearing my thoughts and projecting my focus + sexual intent outward. After that, approaches became a ton easier.
I’m still not out of the woods. A sticking point of mine is approaching girls in front of eavesdropping strangers. My objective is to focus and project sexual intent so hard on the girl the people watching simply don’t matter.