01/02/21 – Pushing Past My Comfort Zone and Going For the Kiss (Breakthrough!)

Before I begin this report, I’d like to thank u/fastlife15 and JP for pushing me to my absolute limit in set – seriously, you guys are my heroes.

I haven’t felt this excited writing a field report since I started gaming June, 2020.

On 01/02/21, Saturday, I ventured off to Chicago with u/part2pete and ran game for approximately five hours. I was “in state”, and felt unusually invigorated walking up and down Michigan Ave.

As a few of you may know, I felt my game stagnate within the past few weeks. I relied on opening/early game concepts and affixed my attention on getting a solid phone number. Deep down, I didn’t feel entitled to getting the same day lay – or hell, going for a kiss on the instadate.

That changed this Saturday.

In this field report (Approach #2Polish Paulina), I went for the kiss. It didn’t matter if she didn’t display IOIs, if my head and gut screamed at me not to, I just fuckin’ did it.

Since the emotional spark wasn’t there, she rejected it. But that didn’t matter. I felt a rush of energy – like I was alive again; like I was the old Adam that discovered pickup anew.

I didn’t care she rejected my advances to kiss her, but rather, I had the courage to act despite nervousness.

All in all, I’ve nailed my opening/early game over a month ago.

Now it’s time to focus on the mid-game.

And if u/fastlife15 is right: I should blitz through this stage compared to opening/early game.

Approach #1: Die Uber Cougar

Synopsis: After stopping at a crosswalk with Pete, I ran into this attractive, late 30s woman who I initially mistook as much younger. It wasn’t a loss, since despite her age, she was still pretty damn hot. So I figured what the hell and decided to stay in set.

What I Did Right:

Ran A More Normal Game Than What I’m Used To: I wasn’t as gamey as I usually was since I was gaming an older woman. She seemed more calm and mature than most women I meet. I inherently knew I shouldn’t be too crazy, just a little.

Least favorite set of the day, but definitely a learning experience when gaming older women.

Sticking Points:

Gaming Older Women Requires More Logic Than Playfulness: Yeah, you should be playful, but it’s better to have a normal, yet high-value conversation compared to gaming her like a girl in her 20s.

Comments: I wonder how different it is gaming cougars in the 35+ range vs 18-25 year olds?

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CwGQb8_WV9k


Approach #2: Polish Paulina

Synopsis: At first, I didn’t catch Paulina, except for a side-glance of her crossing the street. Since I felt rather adventurous, I decided to jump at the opportunity before missing my shot.

Needless to say, it was the best decision I made within the past few months.

At first, she was neutral, leaning receptive. After I displayed high-value behavior, she began turning more and more receptive.

I managed to secure an Instadate at the coffee shop inside a Nordstrom. That’s when I noticed she started shit-testing my frame. Seeing if I was really the alpha I portrayed myself to be.

I felt like I went on an emotional roller coaster with Paulina – she was on one minute, off the next. However, I don’t believe I emotionally connected with her enough with her overall.

At the end, after finishing our coffee, we walked down a side street adjacent to Michigan Ave. I started holding her hand with no resistance, before I stopped her in-front of a dead restaurant. That’s when my gut and head told me NOT to do what I was about to do.

I hand both hands on her waist, whispered ‘fuck it’ to myself, before leaning up for the kiss.

She turned her head away, but I didn’t care.

I felt a spark of positive energy come over me. Like I did something good and amazing.

Even though I got her phone number – it was solid for a single text – I pushed my boundaries and hit new heights in my game.

What I Did Right:

Push Your Boundaries (Going for the Kiss): As stated in the summary, I was trapped in pickup limbo for the past few weeks. I didn’t make any progress and had no idea where to go. I was slacking on implementing comfort/calibration, but after I went for the kiss, I knew exactly what my next objective in was: Instadate + pull.

However, I felt 10x more free doing this in Chicago – a city I merely visit once a week. Maybe twice since Pete and some other PUAs we met that day are so fun.

Is it possible to act the same way in Milwaukee?

Sticking Points:

Fell Into Her Frame A Few Times: Particularly when she started talking about how her parents wanted her to get married/have kids. Either she’s putting me in the boyfriend frame or I established enough comfort for her to open up.

Needless to say, I think I fell into her frame. I told her my grandma asks me the same thing every time she calls me. I’m curious how I should have handled it personally.

Emotional Roller Coaster of Game: It’s hard always being on your A game, man. Even if you drop the game, you gotta display yourself in a high value manner. Since I’m technical with my sets, I notice my verbals starts decreasing at the 10 minute mark in any given interaction.

Not Enough Qualifiers: I felt like I was too nice, too complimenting, but I didn’t follow those up with qualifiers. I felt she would have been receptive (and solid), if I tested her frame more.

Comments: Always. And I mean always, push your set as far as humanly possible. Don’t trust your gut. Definitely don’t trust your head. Just push.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xjSCD-eBzE


Approach #3: The Doctor

Synopsis: A few hours after my instadate with Pauline, I met this incredibly well-dressed doctor from Kenya. Interestingly enough, she was white with an exotic name. We had an instadate, but I felt something was off with her overall demeanor. Like, she was receptive, yet friendly; but not in the good way.

Coming from the medical field, it felt like my Dad talking to one of his patients regarding the side effects of a medication.

I suppose you could call it “professional receptivity,” if I had to put a tag on it.

What I Did Right:

Politeness + Attraction?: Like Lindsay (the cougar), I knew exclusively running value-based game could be problematic. She’s older and probably wouldn’t resonate with game I’d run on girls from the 18-23 range.

I tried playful teasing, but nothing extraordinary if I’m running on memory.

Took Her On Instadate: When I treated an instadate as super casual, not a big deal, she accepted it without any worry. I think that’s the key to landing instadates every game session that I’m out. Remember: Instadates aren’t a big deal. It’s just two people who like each other going out.

Now, remember to always escalate, but during the transition, it never is a big deal.

Sticking Points:

Burning Out: As of 01/03/20, I can run amazing game for approximately… 0-10 minutes. After that, my mind wanders, I get bored, and my brain half-asses whatever verbals I got planned. This is what creates the “emotional roller coaster” during my sets.

0-10 minutes in: Great, amazing, the girl is hooked.

10-20+ minutes in: My energy dampens, I forget to qualify the girl. I tease her a bit, but there’s a noticeable downtrend. She’s on one moment -> the next she’s bored -> the cycle repeats.

I need a way to portray myself as high-value without getting bored for hours at a time.

Comments: Same comment as Die Uber Cougar: This woman was in her early 30s. How should I game someone like that?

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DrvlYiTCaY

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