After watching Shift, I think it’s helpful if I list out every limiting belief that I have – whether big or small – and create a blank slate in my head.
“Girls in Chicago are easier than girls in Milwaukee.” I feel that’s stifling my success in Wisconsin since logically, I know that there’s far more girls to choose from in Chicago, it has a metro pop of 10 mil, and consequently, that extra layer of anonymity makes SDLs / hooking up much easier.
Meanwhile, Milwaukee has a metro pop of 1.6 mil, has a small town vibe despite being a big city, and everything seems social circle orientated.
This is a lie.
Girls are girls are girls. Everywhere. Have the same fun, carefree mindset I run in Chicago and watch my results sky rocket.
Entitlement Issues: My entitlement issues are primarily race based. I don’t mind gaming Latinas and I can be a fun, playful guy in most cases. I’m not going to lie, as an Asian dude who was raised in Arizona I came from a very racist background. Hispanics were seen as “lower class,” and that conservative social conditioning definitely effected my game with Latinas… in a strangely positive way.
However, white girls were seen as “sweet, innocent Christian girls” growing up; but my experience infield proves otherwise. Every girl is the same, with a few niche tweaks here and there.
Speaking from a technical outer game perspective, it’s tough to tell the difference between my game with Latinas vs white girls unless you have a trained eye.
But I’m more careful with what I say, not as carefree, and a bit more serious when I game white girls. If I resolved my entitlement issues, I’d game them in a more carefree, fun way and I wouldn’t hold back.
There’s a scene from Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back between Yoda and Luke Skywalker after the former lifts Luke’s X-Wing from a swamp. It’s geeky, but it really hits home for me:
Luke [to his sunken X-Wing]: “We’ll never get it out now!”
Yoda: “Always with you it cannot be done. You do nothing that I say.”
Luke: “Master, moving stones around is one thing – this is totally different.”
Yoda: “No, no different! Only different in your mind.”
Yoda: “You must unlearn what you learned.”
Luke: “Alright I’ll give it a try.”
Yoda: “No. Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
As expected, Luke fails and Yoda shows him how easy it is if you, for all intents and purposes, believe in yourself.
Luke: “I don’t believe it.”
Yoda: “That is why you fail.”
Having A Fun, Carefree Vibe: When I usually go out and day game, I’m in “terminator mode” 99% of the time. The only exception is when I focused on projecting sexual intent a few months back. That’s when my verbals and vibe came across as slow, meaningful and sexual.
I need to get back to that, but include having a fun, carefree vibe.
Only projecting sexual intent makes you incredibly polarizing, fosure, but constantly shooting out, “I want to fuck you,” to the girl puts too much pressure on her.
This is from experience.
Overexcitement: This probably relates to inner game somehow, but I get easily excited when I’m talking to virtually everyone – especially girls I’m attracted to. It comes across as needy at times. I need to tone down the excitement, particularly during the first few minutes of the interaction. Once I’m a few minutes in, I start calming down.