First report in Chicago.
This report will not be like any other I’ve written thus far.
Instead, it will serve as a reflection of what I’ve lost in Missouri and how I plan to regain my game skillset in Chi Town.
On Saturday, 09/18/21, I ventured off to Chicago with a friend of mine interested in watching me game, accompanied by u/Part2Pete and my old wing Chris. I knew I was rusty since I hadn’t done any approaches – let alone a serious, drawn out set – in approximately 3 weeks.
This report will log three sets which jumpstarted my game in Chi Town.
09/18/21 – Approach #1 – The Pink Hipster Girl
Synopsis: My first set, which lasted less than 30 seconds. She was sporting a pink jacket which went down to her knees. At first, she was neutral, before shifting to slightly receptive. Since I didn’t know what to say after the open, I ejected myself out of set.
What I Did Right:
– Did The Approach: I’m not mad at myself for ejecting out of set prematurely. I knew I was rusty, but I had NO CHOICE but to approach. I’m proud of that.
Sticking Points:
– Ejected Early Despite Growing Receptivity: Since I was running off what I knew off the top of my head, yet was being a bit too try-hard right off the open, I felt I had nothing “interesting” to say. So I left the set. This leads to my next sticking point which is…
– Overgaming: I ran push-pulls, qualifiers, etc in consecutive order. So. Much. Value. Too much value based game. Zero comfort. Julian Blanc said it best: “You have to lower the bar. Realize this: Cool people – people of high value – their bar, for how good of what they have to say, is very low. People who are low value – people who are trying to impress – have a very high bar. They worry if what they’re saying isn’t good enough or will offend.”
What I’ll Do Next Time:
– Lower The Bar: Don’t try and focus on value-based game concepts (ie. push-pulls, qualifiers, etc). Just say whatever comes to mind. Don’t think about it. The value based game will come with far better calibration if I just focused on lowering the bar.
Comments: First set knocked out. Thousands more to go.
09/18/21 – Approach #2 – The Twins In Pink
Synopsis: On Michigan Ave, I ran into these two girls both sporting all-pink mini skirts + tops. Both were hard HB 6s, true neutral, but since I ran a more high-energy type game, they became receptive pretty fast. In hindsight, I ran mostly solid game (ie. lowered the bar, did push-pulls, resonated fun, inner game energy), and I felt my old game skills returning prior to moving to Missouri.
At the end, I fucked up which ended the set, before they ejected since they had to grab something from their car.
What I Did Right:
– Lowered The Bar: I took my advice to heart and significantly lowered the bar of what came outta my mouth. Consequently, I ran comfort + bits of value in a more calibrated way vs overgaming the girls and hoping something sticks.
– Returning Game Skillset: While I don’t feel I’m remotely close to what I ran in Chicago/Milwaukee learning game from June, 2020 – May, 2021 I’m slowly but surely getting close. Shit man, this was my first day returning from my sorta-kinda hiatus of doing half assed sets in Missouri.
Sticking Points:
– High Energy Game: I felt like the type of high-energy, so-called “Clown Game” as Roosh V would put it, would have worked far better at a night club. As u/fastlife15 states, it’s best if I focused on what energy I’m projecting and how I feel about myself vs focusing on trying to be an entertainer which is def what I was doing with the twins.
– Careful What You Say: Oh God, oh man lol. So this is what honestly killed the set. So, the twins and I were talking about muscles and random bullshit. And I swear to God, I went, “Well, if you lifted up your skirt–” then I caught myself and was like, “Fuuuuuuck.” What I meant to convey is how I have “abs” even though I totally have a dad bod. I was giving shit to the girl that I bet she totally has six pack abs on her stomach. I came off not as creepy, but I felt a little weird saying it.
What I’ll Do Next Time:
– Don’t Run “Clown Game”: It’s meant exclusively for night game. Do the following instead: Project a fun, flirty vibe and sexual intent on and off -> significantly lower your verbal game bar (good for calibrating for both comfort/value) -> qualifiers
Comments: I can feel my power returning!
09/19/21 – Approach #1 – The Ukrainian Visitor
Synopsis: On Sunday, 09/19/21, I was winging with Chris and while exploring Chicago, I met this cute, soft HB 7 Ukrainian chick from Austin. She was a straight up fob from EE and only arrived to the States 2 months ago. I inherently knew I should run a far more comfort based game vs value based. It worked like a charm. All I did was actively listen and ran a few compliance tests. In hindsight, if I had to re-do the sesh, I’d re-work it as the following: Actively listen -> casually talk to her but project sexual intent + playful vibe (important) -> qualify/lead her.
So I did everything (mostly) right.
At the end, I tried instadating her, but a good venue wasn’t nearby sadly. So, I snagged her phone number and made plans to meet up with her that night.
It didn’t work out, but here’s the text exchange:
Me: “Hey Eugenia it was nice meeting you”
Her: “Nice to meet you as well, Adam)”
Me: “How’s my favorite wine sipping Ukrainian doing right now🤔”
Her: “I’ve just come to the hotel. Feeling exhausted, going to take some rest.”
Me: “Gotchu. I’m headin to Emerald Loop at 8pm why dont you come down”
No response after that.
What I Did Right:
– Lowered The Bar: On Sunday’s game session, I was still focused on casually talking in a high value way, but haven’t gotten around to projecting sexual intent on and off + having a playful vibe. With that in mind, I’d say I did relatively well. She was interested at times, but I was able to read when Eugenia was losing interest. Consequently, I’d add in a push-pull or mimic a slavic accent she seemed to enjoy.
– Stated Premise: I’ve always felt verbalizing intent was moreso a beginner – low intermediate method of showing a girl you’re interested in her. Right now, since I’m working up to my prior game skill, I felt this was def acceptable, especially since this girl was Eastern European. Eventually, I want to be at a stage where I don’t verbalize my interest in a girl, but let my body language show it instead.
Sticking Points:
– Didn’t Know Where Good Insta Venue Was: Chris and I explored a new venue in Chicago, but we had no clue about logistics or where to pull if necessary. I should have definitely found a good coffeeshop or shit, any sort of venue that permitted casual convo. Need to scout next time.
– Lack of Non-Verbals / Body Language: After I lower the bar and I’m able to permanently display “high value” comfort game, my next goal is to insert subtle premise while allowing my non-verbal body language do all the talking (no pun intended). Of course, the idea here isn’t to focus on body language, but rather mindsets (important). Once I’m in the fun, playful mindset, I can project sexual intent on and off to show my interest to girls.
What I’ll Do Next Time:
– Scout For Insta Venues: This was the biggest drawback of the set. I bet if I was able to instadate Eugenia, she’d be a way, way more solid girl and I’d be able to maneuver myself a bit more game-wise.
Comments: Continue practicing lower the bar, after that, focus on non-verbals via mindsets.