On Sunday, 09/26/21, I ventured off to Navy Pier with Chris to find new viable day game venues. Earlier on in the day, we hit up Fulton Market… and subsequently decided there wasn’t nearly enough talent to make it a worthwhile trip. We walked so fuckin’ much that day, we were tempted to call it quits early.
Thankfully, Chris and I both stuck it out. If we hadn’t, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to run two great sets. While only one was recorded, it’s definitely worth writing an FR on.
Approach #1 – The Columbiana from Medellin
Synopsis: A little after my first set with this adorable South Korean girl, I met this Columbiana from Medellin. She was short (a little under 5 foot), a soft HB 7, and lived in the US for three years. I felt like I had great energy gaming her, given how receptive she was right off the bat. She was with her family tho and I made a few mistakes which I personally think cost me the set.
However, after discussing my approach with Chris, he believes my target simply gave me token resistance. If I persisted, I’d easily be able to land an insta with her – despite the fact her family was nearby.
What I Did Right:
– Pushed It To The Limit: I tried my hardest to push the set to the absolute limit. I’m pretty positive she gave me token resistance a few times in set, but I treated it like a shit test and pushed on.
– Good Balance of Value/Comfort: I was in the moment, calculating my target’s body language, expressions, vocal tonality, and overall vibe. Thanks to staying grounded, I was able to calibrate and readjust my game in real time.
– Too Obvious of an Instadate Close: My biggest fuck-up imo. JP states I should treat my instadate closes super casually; like I’ve closed hundreds of hotties to bars and this Columbiana is just another girl. What I did was stop -> say this is “super random” or some bullshit -> before trying to close her. That puts waaaaaay too much pressure on the girl.
If I had to re-do the insta close, it’d be: Walk past bar -> casually point and say ‘Oh I heard this place as bomb ass drinks. Two minutes, let’s check it out’ -> Boom. Instadate.
What do you guys think?
What I’ll Do Next Time:
– Make My Insta Closes Super Casual: Since I’m adept at closing at coffee shops, I don’t have a problem. However, bars are another story – but no matter, treat closing at bars the same as your run-of-the-mill Starbucks.
Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abZy7gBX1EM