07/22/22 – Learning Night Game in Cebu City

I’m back, baby! Been waitin’ to run game in SEA for years now lol. Y’all can look forward to my FRs and how international pickup compares to the United States.

On 07/22/22, Friday, I decided to try out night game in Cebu City. While I could have hit up Mango Square like most foreigners – and Filipinos – do, I felt it best to start off at Icon. Why? It’s an EDM nightclub visited by the elite-tier of Cebu City. Which consequently means hotter girls.

Unfortunately, I absolutely hated how loud the club was. Worse yet, the dudes and girls whispered everything. It wasn’t like the USA where people would yell so you can hear them over the music. Nah son, Filipinos, Koreans, and the Chinese I met last night are SUPER SHY. Only the Koreans made ANY effort to communicate coherently over the loud ass music.

Nevertheless, that’s why PUAs say bars > clubs. Easier to communicate = easier to game.

However, I learned valuable lessons when I went clubbing in Cebu City. Specifically, the difference between American style NG vs Philippines NG.

You see, as Americans, you have to run value-based game in order to catch the attention of your target. You’re also competing against literally hundreds of other dudes tryna get your girl’s attention, too. In the Philippines, the guys aren’t really competing against you (thank god). I’m pretty sure I was, like, 1 of 5 dudes at Icon running game.

IMPORTANT: But here are the key aspects of PH nightgame that I learned.

  1. Walk up to your girl.
  2. Speak slowly, in English.
  3. Tell her she has a cute look or – better yet – that she’s cute.
  4. Have a normal conversation (ie. “Are you Filipino? Do you come to [club] often? How are you?”). Very simple questions.
    • Resist the temptation to speak fast if you get excited. Keep calm and stay grounded. That’s far more important than “verbally finessing” her.
  5. Lead + escalate

Once I discovered the game style to run in Cebu City, I felt fuckin’ relieved. It’s easy. Real easy. Do not overcomplicate things. Treat all of them like cats. You’re careful, cautious, and don’t make any sudden movements. You don’t want to scare off the cat. Slowly bring them to your side. Be patient.

But yeah, other than that, I had a great set yesterday. I spent approximately 2 hours with this Japanese exchange student at Icon. I learn a ton of valuable things with her on how Eastern women operate.

Approach #1: The Japanese Foreign Exchange Student

Synopsis: After running a few sets at Icon, I was having trouble hooking any sets. My game was too high energy, my English too fast. And girls had trouble following. This wasn’t like in the USA where girls fed off high, fun energy levels. Nah, it was best if I kept to a calm, casual tone. Almost zero game. Except to lead + escalate.

So, after approximately 3 or so sets, that’s when I met her.

My target was a Japanese foreign exchange student living in Cebu City to study English. She was an HB 7, in a sundress, and a bit shy.

I distinctly recall opening her about how cute her sundress looked. She smiled, said thank you. After that, I simply ran with boring ‘ol: “How are you doing? Have you been in the Philippines long? How do you like it?” And she just lit up. Honestly, I didn’t understand why lol. It was just so boring. Like, this wasn’t even fun conversation topics. Moreso shit you’d say sitting next to someone in a bus or plane.

Whatever the case, it worked like a charm.

Unlike the USA, it’s ok if you buy a girl a beer in SEA. So, after buying her + myself a Red Horse, I immediately began leading. I wanted this girl to get invested in me. So, when I went for a smoke, she followed. When I wanted to dance, she obeyed. At one point, she started dragging ME everywhere lol. That’s how I knew my game was working.

I met her friends. And they were pretty cool. Nothing too big to note. Thankfully, they didn’t try cockblocking me – which seems to be a thing in the Philippines. If you’re cool with the guy you’re with, the girls won’t try leading their friend away. It’s fucking awesome.

But here’s the thing: I only did the most MINOR of kino. Like, handholding. I was at a point she starting rubbing my hand with her thumb + leading me around. I knew I should have escalated. But god damn, the fact I realized the game style required for Cebu City and the mad validation I was getting from this Jap was too good.

I played not to lose… I didn’t play to win.

Who cares if I lose this girl, right? I could snatch another one minutes later. But my mind starting fucking with me. What if I get too high energy again? What if I make mistakes – even though I knew the right answer? It was a little stifling, so I opted to go with the safe route and hang out with the Jap.

At the end of the night, I legit got bored. And my girl slowly started to lose interest at the 1 hour, 30 minute mark. So, what did I do? I snatched the Jap’s number and ejected out of set. Bummer.

After speaking with u/fastlife15, he said the following what I’d damn well better do next time: “Move her around a little + seed food/drinks”. Yeah, I should have done the last part. Specifically, seed food/drinks OUTSIDE the night club. Even with her friends being ok with me, it must have been hella hard to escalate without her ASD going off lol.

What I Did Right:

Learned the Right Style of Game: Or, more accurately, calibration. After three sets, I knew high-energy game wouldn’t work. Like Colombia in 7 days, I had to calibrate. Thankfully, it only took me a single night out to realize this fact. The slow, sexy English is what I’ll be opting for next time I hit the night trenches.

Lead, Lead, Lead: I lead my girl everywhere. I knew I had to make her invest. Even though she didn’t smoke, I led her to the smoking area. If I wanted a drink, we went to the bar. Even in the most useless areas, she followed me like a puppy. It was glorious.

Sticking Points:

Spoke Waaaaay Too Fast: Yah, this one is a biggie. Especially since this ain’t the States. Girls, even Filipinas who DO speak English, but don’t use it as their primary language, had a tough time listening to me. The music was stupidly loud. And I just ran my mouth 100mph.

Too High Energy: I had a similar issue in the United States. Since I was excited to NG in a new environment, I’d consequently be high energy as fuck. It was a little problematic in the States, but at least I could get girls to hook. In SEA countries, girls – hell, people – are inherently shy and introverted. Being high energy in general simply will not fly.

Played To Not Lose: God, I hated myself for this one. But yeah, it’s a learning experience. I knew I had to escalate, but I was afraid my target’s friends would drag my girl away. And I feared rejection. I mean, I put so much time and effort into the set – why risk losing it? At least, that’s the lie I told myself.

What I’ll Do Next Time:

Go Direct: This is the name of the game. If you convey direct intentions (ie. “I think you’re cute and I had to say hi.”) girls will light up. This is a far cry from the United States. Such an opener will absolutely murder the set. Full-on. But in the Philippines, direct is the ONLY way to go. Girls don’t get subtlety. They don’t get cute push-pulls, cold reads, etc. Just be straight. If you like a girl, straight-up tell her. Don’t sugarcoat it.

Speak Slowly In English: Ok, I think the fact I’m excited + have prior experience with NG in the United States is why I spoke fast. Next time, I’ll speak slowly, with meaning and focus, and less on what I say.

Project Sexual Intent: If I’m going to do anything game-y, focus on inner game. A practical inner game technique which translates infield is projecting sexual intent. I give the girl ‘I-want-to-fuck-you’ eyes, while training my focus on her.

Focus on HOW I say my words: Like in Colombia, it’s how I say things, not what I say. Simple as that.

Focus on Inner Game: In hindsight, very little – if any – outer game techniques are required in SEA. If I’m going to focus on anything, make it inner game. Practice mindfulness meditation, project sexual intent, become more entitled with 8s, 9s, and 10s.

Comments: Remember: Slow, meaningful English. Boring convo topics. Ditch the Todd V value based game in SEA. I don’t need it.

Cebu City Game Schedule

In Cebu City, I will be practicing pickup five days a week. They are on Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I will dictate my day game locations starting off, before setting up a night game schedule once I start getting comfortable.

Tuesday: SM City Cebu

Wednesday: Ayala Mall

Friday: Banilad Town Centre (there’s three malls adjacent to each other)

Saturday: SM Seaside

Sunday: Ayala Mall


  1. As long as I get THREE new bangs a week, I’m happy. That’s the optimum number I’m aiming for. Once I hit 50 total bangs, take a month off game to save up money.
  2. Get 5 phone numbers each game session. Go the STW route and snatch phone numbers and plan dates there. If the girl is REALLY into me, go for SDL if possible.
  3. This week, 07/24/22 – 07/31/22, do old fashioned game (ie. meet with girl, talk to her, etc). If I don’t get many leads, go the route most PUAs recommend. Write my number on a piece of paper + hand it out to them. This is gunna be weird, but try out, “This is for you” or “You’re cute” and hand out the paper. A good reference is: https://www.199flags.com/how-to-seduce-cebuanas/
  4. So comfort tests are HUGE in Cebu City. Girls think you’re cold approaching every girl. They want to feel special, like they’re the only one. Make them feel special. If they ask if you’re doing this to other girls, just say, “No, I’m a very monogamous guy. I can’t think of ever dating two people at once.

What Type Of Game Works on Filipinas?

Right now, I’m on Filipino Cupid to gauge how to pickup Filipina chicks online. This tells me how the interaction will be like in real life.

So far, what I’ve discovered what works is Filipinas – like Colombianas – get confused when you try value based game. Remember, I already have enough value be simply being American. There’s no need to increase it even more.

Use simplicity and directness to seduce Filipinas. For example, in text game do:

  1. Direct Opener: “You have the cutest look and I have to say hi.”
  2. Next, they say “thank you.” I respond with, “no problem hows it going [name]”


  1. Follow this guide like the bible: https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-message-on-tinder/
  2. Be low investment as fuck. Don’t care what you write. Submit small posts
  3. Be super direct. This line works and it’s weird lol: “you should party with me when i arrive in cebu” or “you should come over when i arrive in cebu”.
  4. IMPORTANT: I have saved a dropbox filled with my good interactions with Filipinas on Filipino Cupid. Review them before I venture out to Cebu City.

Philippines Hit List

According to most pickup artists, the Philippines is an incredibly easy country to get laid. By all metrics, it’s far easier to meet girls in the nightclubs, streets, etc than in the United States. In a matter of fact, I’ve read multiple field reports of dudes banging 2-3 chicks a day on Swoop The World.

While I could draft up individual lay reports for girls I’ve slept with, I think it’s best if I logged my encounters in a spreadsheet. They will be organized by the following:

Notch #:
HB Score: (1-10)
Game Style: (Day game, Night game, Online)
Description: (Include how she looks, but most importantly, write up the lay report like a fun adventure. Like how I did with Drew, my Bogota report, etc)

Notch #: 6
Name: Shamae
Date: 07/17/22
HB Score: 5
Game Style: Online
Description: On Sunday, 07/17/22, literally a few hours after I got off the plane, I met Shamae from Filipino Cupid. She’s a chubby Filipina with dark rashes all over her body. She says it’s due to stress, but I digress. Given she’s 28, Shamae wasn’t ready to jump into bed the moment I met her.

It took approximately 30 minutes before we started making out -> I began undressing -> she started sucking my cock.

After that, we had sex. But damn man, she was crazy submissive and a sex addict. We banged three times throughout the night. I had to reiterate this – and let my boys on CovertPickup know – that Filipinas were submissive. It’s easy to see why old white dudes fly over to PH to marry Filipinas.

Within a few hours, Shamae gave me a massage, washed my dishes, offered to fold my clothes, put out on command, etc. She’s the definition of a 1950s American housewife. It was pretty hot… but unfortunately, she was NOT.

I’ll need to find a way to ditch her. I think the best way to do that is by cutting off contact very slowly…

Notch #: 7
Name: Nennen
Date: 07/19/22
HB Score: Hard 6
Game Style: Online
Description: Nennen is a cute, shy and fit Filipina I met on Filipino Cupid. She was relatively attractive with small tits, small ass (which, I might add, I loved grabbing), and a cute face. When she stood up to take a shower after we had sex, I could see why US Marines called Filipinas “LBFMs” or Little Brown Fuck Machines.

After I met Nennen, it literally took 15-20 minutes to have sex with her. She spoke really shaky English, so I couldn’t verbally communicate with her too well. So, what did I do? Physical escalation.

It worked like a charm.

We had sex twice before she left my apartment. Unfortunately, when we were texting, she made up a BS story about how her “brother needed a tetanus shot at the hospital”, and asked for money. Yeeeeeeah, I don’t play by those rules. While I may keep her, Nennen wasn’t particularly special, I feel.

It’s funny: In the United States, I’d have loved to kept Nennen as apart of my main roster of girls. A man’s options are strikingly limited. But in the Philippines, we feel like gods.

Notch #: 8
Name: Cherry
Date: 07/20/22
HB Score: Soft 6
Game Style: Online
Description: After banging out Shamae and Nennen, I realized I just wasn’t satisfied banging out 5s and 6s. I thought I wanted easy lays, but it turns out, this wasn’t the case. I distinctly recall I had trouble cumming when I had sex with Shamae, but less so with Nennen. What does this mean? The more attractive the girl, the more energized I was.

However, I decided to hook up with one final 6 before opting to hook up exclusively with 7s and up.

Her name is Cherry. Honestly, she’s my favorite. She’s got a great sense of humor, has that traditional Filipina submissiveness, and is open-minded. She’s well-aware I hook up with other Filipinas. And while she prefers exclusivity, doesn’t mind hanging out with me.

Other than that, while Cherry is a Filipina, she has a distinct Hispanic look to her. I’m pretty sure she has a not-too-distant Spanish ancestor she’s inherited her looks from.

Like the last two notches, we hooked up the first night we met. It wasn’t long, either. I’d estimate 30 minutes or so before we started banging. But it wasn’t the sex that I admire, it’s how far she was willing to go help me in the Philippines.

She accompanied me to the dentist’s office, to Ayala Mall to buy towels, and showcasing cool places around Cebu City.

I’m definitely planning to keep in contact with Cherry.

Notch #: 9
Name: Yassi
Date: 07/30/22
HB Score: Soft 7
Game Style: Online
Description: At this time, I only day gamed twice in the Philippines and relied heavily on online game to get laid. Why? Too many tasks in Cebu City. From focusing on my business, going to the doctor’s office to donate blood, etc. However, at this time, I met a cute Filipina, a soft HB 7. She wore a frilly shirt – apparently apart of Filipino culture – and had the sexiest legs and the firmest ass.

Unfortunately, she was hella shy. Like, she literally went behind me a few times when we first met lol. Thankfully, I was able to learn enough comfort game + balance it out with kino to open her up, slowly but surely.

She lived in Lapu-Lapu City. It’s adjacent to Cebu City and I had to spend 200 PHP just to meet her. We had a nice date at a supermarket-like bar. It took an hour or so for us to hit up her place: A dingy, ass-backward shack which apparently cost her 2,300 PHP/month to live in.

It wasn’t long before we made out. Eventually, I fucked her. And god, did she love anal. In a matter of fact, she had the tightest asshole I’ve ever fucked. It was hard keeping my load in. After laying her on her stomach, I pounded her ass until I ejaculated hard inside her ass.

Notch #: 10
Name: Masumi
Date: 08/02/22
HB Score: Soft 6
Game Style: Night game
Description: I definitely wanted to try Cebu City night game. The guys on SwoopTheWorld raved at how easy it was to pull cuties back to your airbnb/apartment/hotel. To be fair, it’s a half truth. NG in the Philippines is much easier than the West, to be sure, but it isn’t effortless.

For one, Asians are shy. Literally, no other guy except me was cold approaching women at Icon. Thankfully, my hard labor paid off.

In my only night game notch, I met a cute, mid-30s Japanese businesswoman at a club called Icon. It played irritatingly loud EDM music and dotted with Filipinos and Koreans.

After half a dozen failed approaches, I ran into Masumi in the middle of the dance floor. She had jet black hair, a sundress, and was in the Philippines to learn English.

However, Icon was crazy loud, so verbal game was out of the picture. Instead I opted to run with a high-energy, fun vibe. She LOVED it. I led her around the bar and we chilled a bit. Unfortunately, I played to not lose and didn’t play to win. Masumi was fuckin’ down. But I pussed out and accepted her phone number instead.

A few days later, I received a text from Masumi. She wanted to hang out at a tiki bar in IT Park. Eh, why not, I figured. When I arrived, I recall Matsumi sitting on the bench with this Vietnamese dude.

We chatted a bit, before Masumi said, “Hey, do you have good wifi?”

Me: “Oh yeah, internet’s great!”

Masumi: “Ooooh cool, mind if I check it out? If the internet’s good I can stay at your place.”

Holy fuck, that’s 200% bait. Like, even some random, run-of-the-mill dude could see through that. Masumi needed a socially acceptable excuse to chill at my airbnb in front of this Vietnamese dude… but the funny part? I DIDN’T FUCKIN’ GET THE HINT LOL. I legit thought she wanted to use my wifi. Damn, living at my sister’s house made me a rusty PUA.

Anyway, I lead her back to my airbnb and we chat a bit. Literally, right when I close the door, we sit on the bed, she gives me a smile, and we begin making out. Que sex scene.

All in all, Masumi stayed at my place for two days. We had sex 3-4 times a day. And tbh, she was one of my fav notches in the Phils.

Notch #: 11
Name: Jov
Date: 02/06/23
HB Score: Soft 7
Game Style: Online
Description: At this point, I was living with June and building my business up. But I grew tired and bored. I flew to Manila due to a.) the sheer 15 mil pop that massively increased my options of women and b.) the stories of guys pulling multiple times a day. So, I flew off to Manila for two weeks.

Jov was my first (and favorite) notch in Manila. She was hella cute, sweet, innocent. But most importantly, served as an excellent reminder how important comfort is in game.

Since I hadn’t practiced game in 5-6 months at this point, I ran with engrained PUA techniques I learned back in the States: push-pulls, qualifiers, etc. It helped, but she was still nervous. I was this cool, sexy guy and Jov was this Filipina who never dated a foreigner before.

We met at Starbucks, chatted, before I brought her back to my place. It took two hours to get her comfortable. After I reminded her of how she’s special, I’m the only guy she’ll ever need… tbh, a bunch of BS to get her guard down, she gave in.

It was a simple fuck. Missionary, blowjob, stuff like that. We also fucked in the shower.

Still, it was interesting tapping into the Dark Side of the Game to net this notch + implement comfort.

Notch #: 12
Name: Laramie
Date: 02/07/23
HB Score: Soft 6
Game Style: Online
Description: Honestly, I don’t want to go deep into this one. Laramie was a bit overweight and she came directly to my place after I messaged her on Tinder. She hadn’t had dick in a while and we legit had sex 30 mins after she arrived.

End of story.

Notch #: 13
Name: Riri
Date: 02/09/23
HB Score: Soft 7
Game Style: Online
Description: I had two days before I left Manila and I def wanted to get another notch in. So, I met this Instagram-loving girl named Riri. After PMing her on Tinder, we chatted for a bit before she came directly to my airbnb.

She’d def looked like a lower-tier model when I met her in person. After leading her to my apartment, we chatted for a bit, before I whipped out my most powerful pickup technique: truth or dare.

So, I’m definitely implementing the “truth or dare” technique as a last resort. It’s crazy how far you can get under the pretences of a simple game. Better yet, it lets girls think “it just happened” without anti-slut defenses popping up to cockblock you.

It’s simple: do something small (e.g. hold my hand, give me a kiss on the cheek), before ramping up the stakes (e.g. kiss me on the lips, take off your bra, let me kiss your neck), and finally the crescendo (e.g. “give me two minutes of what I want to do to do”).

It worked on Riri and Laramie. I def want to try it in Colombia if I’m out of options tryna pull due to LMR or otherwise.

Anyway, you get the gyst: we play truth or dare and it isn’t long before we begin fucking in missionary position.

Niche Countries to Visit for Travel and Social Circle Game

After looking through Reddit, it looks like Kosovo (suuuuper low cost of living) and Cyprus (moderately expensive) are two great countries to run some sort of social circle game around here. Since Americans are rare and loved, it looks like I can do a lot of good being a cool guy without actively gaming. Think of it as a vacation from my PUA travels in Eastern Europe.

I will remain in either country for 1-2 months. If I like it, I’ll extend my stay.

After that, check out Georgia (very low cost of living; $850 month). Follow the same rule. Befriend locals -> do social circle.

Getting into the right PUA mindset when I return

  • Watch Californication. Binge it. And watch it over and over again.
  • Read this page: https://web.archive.org/web/20201205222353/https://www.swooptheworld.com/put-mood-charm-californication/
  • Read this page before hitting up Asia: https://web.archive.org/web/20201111223601/https://www.swooptheworld.com/asian-girls-dating-different-types/
  • For Europe: https://thisistrouble.com/dating-abroad/

Africa chicks

After doing thorough research into my digital nomad journey, I discovered the easiest girls – and those who speak the most English – are both in Nairobi, Kenya and Kampala, Uganda (according to a Swoop thread). I will most likely hit Africa once I’m through with Asia and Eastern Europe (3+ years in). I need to be a seasoned traveler by this time.

You’re Not A Pickup Artist; You’re An Attractive Guy Who Is Good With Girls

What do you identify as?

This is a big lightbulb moment I experienced thanks to the all-glorious Todd V. When I’m infield, my sticking point has always been trying to hard; overgaming, if you will. Why is that the case? Because I identify myself as a pickup artist, not as an attractive guy who is good with girls. When the term ‘pickup artist’ pops into my head, what do I think? I think war, competition, one-uping the girl, like I’m engaged in a never-ending battle between the Sith and Jedi.

Consequently, since my mind interprets ANY interaction with a girl as a battle – I use techniques to WIN. Not in the good way, mind you, but “win her over using my excellent verbal skills and game and how funny/witty I am.”

What does Todd state? I’ll quote the god himself:

“As you get better [in game], it’s very important to actually shift your identity NOT to pickup artist anymore, but to ‘guy who is good with girls’.

Once it’s a given you’re going to do approaches, once it’s a given you’re going to take action – in order to get the right action, in order to make it appear ‘it just happened’, to be naturally attractive – it’s very important I most past ‘this is something I’m proud of, something I do’ to this is something WHO I AM.”

Because that’s going to make game more of an embodiment and more of something that flows through you. Even when you’re not in ‘pickup mode’ or when you’re not ‘doing approaches’.

It’s going to make your game alot more ‘it just happened’, alot more seamless, alot more natural, alot more effortless.” – Todd V.

Save Your Dopamine!


Maaaan Chris should me an absolutely awesome fuckin dude on YouTube named Jason Capital. He told me WHY I felt anxious and depressed, why I don’t feel motivated, and it all falls down to two things: Dopamine consumption and counting small wins (“w”s).

What does that mean for me?

It means I’ve gotta prioritize saving my dopamine and keeping small – but stacking – promises to myself.

I think it’s best if I wrote this as a list:

Dopamine & Counting Wins:

  • Instead of getting up in the morning and going for coffee, drinking a ton of water so you’re not dehydrated. You’ll feel much better and water itself actually gives you energy!
  • Brush my teeth every morning
  • Make my bed every morning
  • When I do a task, instead of feeding my brain dopamine by playing music or having “background noise”, exclusively focus on the task at hand. The feeling of accomplishment and the fact you’ve made even the tiniest progress counts as a W in your brain. Stack ’em brutha
  • Remember every small thing you accomplished that day and count ’em. Wins and losses go in stacks. If you keep winning, you’ll keep going on that win streak. However, if you keep losing, you’ll continue losing.
  • Don’t just “try” to be happy, actually DO SOMETHING. Set a goal for myself. In this case, focus hard on building my portfolio for freelance writing for 6 weeks or I want to make $500 a month in 4 months. Work on it hard. And whatever progress I make – no matter if it’s landing my first client or writing a paragraph for my website – count it as a WIN.
  • Beware of dopamine consumers like scrolling through Reddit or watching consecutive YouTube vids. They’re time consumers and eat up your mental energy like no other.
  • When negative self-talk comes into my head, just ignore it and focus on whatever goal I’m working on.
  • Don’t think, research, or determine how I’m going to accomplish my goal too much – just do.
  • Avoid shitty food, cigarettes or porn which give you a fake spike in dopamine. This insidious fiend usually kicks in when you’ve experienced too many losses. Since your brain doesn’t like the feeling of constantly losing, it searches for an alternate source to experience comfort. Consequently, this leads you down a FURTHER STEAK OF LOSSES. Since you usually feel terrible after indulging in said vice.
  • When I wake up, do not hit the snooze button. Your ass is AWAKE. Hit those feet on the floor.
  • Avoid Reddit, they are full of losers. Only a select few subs are useful like r/freelancewriting or r/digitalnomad. Shit that has a purpose.
  • Do not reach for my phone while in bed. Get the fuck up and do what you need to do (ie. make bed, brush teeth, get ready for work).

12/11/21 – Girl Threw Herself At Me… And I Bombed Due To Lack of Entitlement

On Saturday, 12/11/21, I ventured off to Rocbar with Chris preparing for a loooong night game session leading up to 4AM. Before this, on Friday, we had a pretty successful night filled with learning lessons – and that Saturday was no different. Possibly even more so, just different aspects of game.

At first, it was an average Saturday night for us. Run a few sets -> hook girls -> but Chris and I would hit a deadlock or some external event prevented us from moving the set forward. Rinse and repeat. However, at the tail end of the night, I met this 23 year old, South African lawyer who hoped I’d game her correctly. Unfortunately, I made a critical mishap which cost me the set. I’ll be detailing the interaction in this report.

Approach #1The South African Lawyer

Synopsis: At 3-4AM, I was chilling with Chris, going over his most recent set. He made this Pakistani chick all over him, but her friends cockblocked like mad. That’s when this chick sporting a black dress, heavy makeup, I’d say a soft 7 came over and sat next to me.

This wasn’t a coincidence.

Quite a few couches were nearby and she chose to sit directly adjacent to me. It was easy pickings.

I forgot what I opened her with, but it was super casual. The first thing I noticed was her personality: She was a highly intelligent, yet negative individual. She was direct and to the point, despite her attempts at “subtlety”.

I tried running standard game: Push-pulls, qualifiers, etc. They didn’t have a strong effect. In hindsight, she was definitely a comfort girl. My value was high enough simply by being there.

We vibed most of the time… and then I asked her why she was so tired. Like, the girl looked like she reeeeally didn’t want to be in the club.

Her response: “I don’t want to send the wrong vibes, but I’m tired and want to go home. I’d rather save that energy for sex.”

You DON’T just say that without conveying some overt ass intentions.

In all honesty, I was awestruck. My brain was like, “uhhhh…”

And since I didn’t know how to handle the situ, my brain reverted to giving a thirsty response lol. It was terrible game and I felt truly awful for going the chode route. This was def a learning lesson I’ll avoid in the future.

“So, you’re a lawyer, right? That means you probably have a sweet ass apartment.”

“Yeah, it’s pretty cool. Some of the shit doesn’t work, but I like it.”

“Shit girl, I’unno I’m a poor boy and I’m kinda curious to see how it is.”

Aaaand she said she had a boyfriend haha. We chatted for a bit longer, but at the end, I snagged her number. It was a flake. Meh.

IMPORTANT: After speaking to u/fastlife15, he said “Sometimes girls are just down and all you need to do is chill, not be too thirsty, and lead.” That’s it. Be a cool, fun guy.

What I Did Right:

– Pushed The Set As Far As Possible: While I fucked up, at least I didn’t freeze & eject or simply ignored what my target. This served as a massive learning lesson to truly chill, not be too thirsty, and lead as u/fastlife15 put it.

Sticking Points:

– Handling Direct Girls: I definitely wasn’t entitled as I should have been. If I was, I would have inherently knew I was a high value dude and this was common to me. Next time, I’ll…

What I’ll Do Next Time:

– Chill -> Don’t Be Thirsty -> Lead: … do this. Gotta remember if a girl is overtly interested in me, to simply chill, don’t be thirsty, and lead.

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