It’s Training Time

I’ve decided I’m progressing far too slowly in game. While I’ve been hitting the streets and clubs hardcore for the past two months, I thought it wise to buy Todd V’s 90 Day Online Coaching Program to exponentially increase my effectiveness in-field.

According to Dustyn, the guy who I spoke to, JP will provide a detailed mission report weekly, examine my field reports and audio recorded sets I perform in-field, and finally, a weekly 1-2 hour convo over the phone to see how I’m progressing overall.

I think it’s a great value and will significantly cut off the months and possibly even years required to get good at this.

Frank Cotton is my Spirit Animal

What American women want.

After last night’s notch, I’ve come to realize American women don’t want a soft, beta male who would care and provide for them. They’d prefer a sexually aggressive alpha who doesn’t care about their dreams, wants or desires. It reminds me of the character Frank Cotton from the Hellraiser (or for you literary nerds out there, the Hellbound Heart) franchise.

If you’re not familiar with the character, Frank Cotton was a selfish, hedonistic individual who had an affair with his sister in law Julia. After searching the world for greater forms of pleasure and living a life of promiscuity and sensual gluttony. He treated women more like objects than an actual human being, but most importantly, he was honest with his intentions.

Yes, he would promise something to the women if it meant she’d sleep with him. But overall, throughout the interaction, he was sexually aggressive and took what he wanted.

It’s a shame American women unconsciously idolize the Frank Cotton archetype. Even with my notch on 12/7/19, I became aroused when she briefly kissed up and down my body. The beta Adam within me wanted to rise up, but then I realized, just in time, American women are turned off by the notion of a caring male.

And that’s why, as long as I remain in the United States, I’ll become and mimic the actions of Frank Cotton.

From Nice Guy Mindset to Alpha Mindset

John Sonmez delivers gold advice yet again.

I hate saying it, but I keep reverting back to my old Nice Guy mindset. I smile too much, I laugh or giggle when one of my co-workers mentions something. I’m acting very beta at work – much to my disadvantage. While negative repercussions haven’t occurred yet, my co-workers seem to tolerate my nice guy attitude so far. Why? Because I show weakness as a man.

In my Nice Guy mindset, I tell myself to be super positive all the time because my co-workers will love me for it. Wrong. They keep their distance from me and talk to me only when required (ie. a scrum meeting, giving me assignments, etc).

However, I can fix this.

Before I state the solution, I must note this applies strongly to game as well.

I can try to change my attitude and act alpha, pretend to be something I’m not. But as John Sonmez states, it’s like stretching a rubber band. It’s only a matter of time before it snaps back at me and I go back to my beta ways.

What I can do, however, is change my mindset – and consequently, my actions.

In the club, while day gaming, and at work, I can tell myself “What would alpha Adam do in this situation?” I need to change how I view myself, how I view the world around me, how I view relationships, etc. If I tell myself I’m entitled, I’m high status… guess what? I fucking BECOME that.

Therefore, every morning I will get rid of the Nice Guy mindset – my former nature – and put on the Alpha Adam mindset.

My Personal Frame

I was listening to RSD Max’s The Natural and I really loved the concept of introducing a solid, positive frame during work or play. I will type what I wrote on paper and say this to myself every single day.

More epic music to emphasize the hero’s journey.
  • “I completely trust myself”
  • “I trust my instincts”
  • “I trust my positive thoughts”
  • “I am the only person in the world that knows whats best for me”
  • “I love myself”
  • “I am full of mistakes but I love myself
  • “I am happy with all outcomes, whether good or bad”
  • “I am centered and focused”
  • “I will never stop improving and I will miss no chance to challenge myself”
  • “I will push my boundaries and go beyond my comfort zone every single day”

My Game Frame

I was listening to RSD Max’s The Natural and I really loved the concept of introducing a solid, positive frame for each set I do in-field. I will type what I wrote on paper and say this to myself every single day.

Better add some epic music to emphasize my journey to becoming a hero.
  • “I love staying in set, it’s a nice little challenge and I get to know the girl better.”
  • “I love it when I approach a girl with alpha body language, confidence, and a deep, relaxed voice. It displays the alpha male in me.”
  • “I am attractive because I’m a software engineer, I’m driven, hard-working, and envision a bright future for myself. I’m lovely, a hunter and won’t stop until I get what I want. I’m creative, smart, and reflect on my mistakes.”
  • “Spitting game and doing sets is not a chore for me. It is a lifestyle. There is no stress involved.”

RSD Max’s Self-Assessment

I’m taking RSD Max’s The Natural online course and one of the lessons involved is taking a shameless self-assessment which points out where I am in my pick-up skill set. Let’s take a look at his questions:

Shameless Self-Assessment

1.) Where am I in this journey? / Success with women? (How did any success happen?) So far, I have gotten 6 phone numbers through direct game. Most of the time, they’re flakes, but I do have text conversations with a few girls. Unfortunately, I have not gained a single notch nor date in this entire process.

All of these numbers were gained via direct cold approaches with me having anxiety during my initial approach. At first, the approach anxiety was really bad, with me stuttering or asking “interview questions” (I still do) with my approaches, but since my last 30 or so cold approaches, it’s been lessening.

2.) How do I come across to people? It depends on what I’m doing, where I’m at, and how I’m feeling. If I’m at work, I come across as the guy who says or does stupid shit. Hell, even lazy even though I work relatively hard.

When I cold approach, it varies heavily on my mood, if I’m “in the zone” or if it’s my first or fifth approach. Initially, I believe I come across as a strange guy who thinks some girl is attractive. Other times, I come across as a “cool dude” who girls don’t mind giving their numbers to. It really varies.

With people, I can also be a bit timid or shy if I first meet them. I also personally believe I can be arrogant at times and prefer talking about myself compared to letting other people speak if I’m deep in a conversation. I seriously need to tone that down. Become more cool, calm, and collected instead.

3.) What is my personality like? As a person, I’m introverted, but speak my mind. If someone asks me about an opinion on something, I’ll tell them the truth. I’m persistent. I will complete my goal even if I feel burned out. I’m very schedule reliant. I’m aware I should be approaching women everywhere I see one, but if I’m not on my “approach schedule”, I won’t approach.

I get in my head too much. I mentally tell myself “she’s not hot enough”, “the circumstances aren’t right to approach this girl”, etc as excuses not to approach a woman in any given situation. Stress can also cause self-doubt in me.

While I’m getting over approach anxiety, I don’t know how to communicate during an interaction with a girl. Therefore, I ask a great many “interview style questions” until I find something we both have in common.

I can also be a people pleaser at times. If I feel like a girl likes me, I will start saying things that I believe would make her like me. This is bullshit. I should only trust and adapt the abundance mentality.

What Are My Goals?

1.) What are my short-term goals with women + people? In the short term, which I’m assuming is the next few months, I want to be able to fuck at least 1-2 women. They have to be at least a 7 or above. I won’t degrade myself any lower than that. Leave Yuma, AZ for a bigger, metropolitan city so I can rack up approaches much, much faster. I will have started my career as a Software Engineer.

I want to be able to talk to anyone in the eye and speak confidently.

1b.) What will it take to get there? Whether by statistics or mastering game, it will take dedicating myself to the art of natural game via The Natural by RSD Max or James Marshall. With people, it will involve me keeping the alpha mindset ‘on’ more often and showing no fear.

In a more solid, practical sense, I must intensely look a woman in the eyes and project my sexual intent as I speak in a slow, confident voice.

2.) What are my mid-term goals with women + people? In the mid term, which I’m assuming is the next 2-5 years, I want to have a girlfriend (or 2… or 3) and a side chick simultaneously. I want to be seen as the leader and worshiped as the guy who everyone knows and looks up to. I want to be a Social God. I also want to be working as a Software Engineer at this time. Begin learning German.

2b.) What will it take to get there? Like the point above, I would have totally surrendered my life to the art of game. Learning upon my failures and resisting the urge to give up or live a comfortable life. I must remain eternally uncomfortable and goal driven. I cannot give up. My future depends on it.

In a more solid, practical sense, I must develop a social circle of “cool guys” who I vibe with and am close friends with. Alongside cold approaching, I must additionally master social circle game and prove myself as the alpha of the pack via leading others to the next venue, deciding what we must do next, etc. This will build up my social proof and women will naturally flock to the alpha male.

When it comes to women, I will have mastered what turns women on and how to keep them. I could use amoral methods depending on what the girl requires, but it must be accomplished nevertheless.

3.) What are my mid-term goals with women + people? In the long term, which I’m assuming is 5+ years, I want to have my favorite girlfriend become my wife who is bisexual and is open to me having other women. I also want children. In the long, long term I want to retire in an Eastern European country and game to my life’s content. Master German.

3b.) What will it take to get there? It will take me saving up $100,000-$500,000 USD to retire in an Eastern European country and getting a citizenship along the way.

4.) How do I want to come across to people? Confident, leader-like, more interesting (ie. well traveled, adventurous), more empathetic (and far less arrogant), cool, calm and collected.

I, Adam S.,

02/11/19… you become who you believe yourself to be.

An alpha male in his natural habitat.

I’ve heard this many times in the past, especially in the PUA community, and that is to “fake it until you make it”. This is actually an old lesson I learned last year, but I’m revitalizing the concept as I believe it’s incredibly important for beginners (myself included). Essentially, what “fake it until you make it” truly means is a mindset change.

Let’s say, for example, you want to become an alpha male. What would an alpha male do? More specifically, what would an alpha male version of yourself do? Well… an alpha version me would stand upright, carry himself with an air of superiority, and consequently, would speak to women he’s attracted to in a direct, sexual manner. Not creepy, mind you, but rather “you’re mine”.

I have adapted this mindset in the past, and it’s worked wonders. I had women agree to go to dates with me (without flaking), but due to logistics or poor planning, I couldn’t have made it work in my favor.

This time, however, I will.

2019 New Year Resolutions

  • Complete the Java training and get a job in either Denver, Vegas, NYC, or Atlanta.
  • Get laid at least 3 times this year.
  • Practice and get good at PUA by going out 4 times a week Fri, Sat, Sun, M either afternoon or night.
  • Work out 4-5 days a week.
  • Complete the eroge VN and work on it every day. Even if it’s only a paragraph per day.

A list of PUA affirmations for men

Repeat this before going out or at any time of the day:

I radiate love to everyone around me
I exude charisma because I maintain a positive lighthearted, loving energy at all times
There is no competition
I feel fucking amazing
Life is short and I am taking full advantage of it
Anytime I think a negative thought I replace it with a positive one.
Women love me
I am an incredible person
Women melt inside when I smile at them
I am improving each and every day
I am not afraid to get sexual because sexuality is beautiful
I am always leading the conversation and interaction
I radiate masculine power
Women crave a man like me on every level
All Women are in love with me, they just don’t know it yet
When I speak to anyone, an abundance of love is flowing out of me and they can feel it
People can feel it when I walk into a room
I am always in state because nothing matters
I love women and women love me
My body language is perfect
My eye contact is perfect
Practice makes perfect
I am learning and growing every day
I exude divine masculine presence
Women love it when I touch them
I am comfortable in any environment because wherever I go is my home
I never hide my attraction with a woman
I love the feminine sexual essence of a woman
When I fail, I automatically get better.
Failure is nothing to be afraid of.
I am what I think about so I choose to think about positive things.
If I have a negative thought, I immediately replace it with 5 positive ones.
I feel good, calm and relaxed at all times
I am getting more and more confident every single day
I am building the life that I want
Beautiful women love sex
I am always turning women on without realizing it
Whatever I think, I become
I use my imagination to manifest what I want in life
I am good enough because I am perfect
I am comfortable around all women
Believing in myself is the secret to my success
I am a god among men
I am always having fun with beautiful women

7 Essential Inner Game Beliefs

While listening to Roosh’s updated 2018 version called ‘Game’, he mentions the most important aspect of getting women isn’t logistics or motivation or living in a city with lots of girls, but rather inner game. It isn’t something I can see or touch. It’s an invisible force embedded in my mind that controls me every second of the day. It’s my belief system.

My goal is to attain mastery over my belief system and utilize it to accomplish my personal goals.

In order to do this, Roosh strongly suggests I have a daily or weekly affirmation session in which I repeat each belief to myself between 5-10 times, preferably out loud.

The following 7 beliefs are essential to being good with women, one that I have the opportunity to repeat to myself daily:

1.) I don’t care if I get laid with her, but I do care about getting laid: This one is simple. Don’t show interest in a girl over the interests of myself. Never, ever put pussy on a pedestal. I must not care about the success with any individual girl (even if I think she’s the hottest fucking thing in the world!), but instead care strongly about getting laid in general. I want to be the guy in the bar who wants to get laid more than any other man, but absolutely does not care if my top choice rejects me.

2.) A girl primarily evaluates my value based on how I treat her: Even after I maximize my physical attractiveness, what really determines my value to a girl is how I present myself to them. Which is something I can control unlike my height or facial structure. Women do not want to be with a man she thinks possesses lower value than her. She’s hardwired to date a man with higher value.

One thing Roosh notes, is that women look for shortcuts to judge value.

I can accomplish this by having social proof, where other women are giving me attention or being interesting or funny, but a far more important shortcut is by how I treat a woman.

If I don’t treat a woman well, it’s because she knows my value is much higher than hers. I treat her poorly because I believe she’s beneath me, therefore a man will be more attracted to a man who doesn’t constantly give her attention.

So no compliments (unless I really, and I mean really mean it.), no buying drinks or doing anything unless she impresses me first.

What does Roosh do? Walk up to a girl with your body erect and show her her beauty doesn’t have an effect on me, while throwing in a joke that girls usually buy me drinks, she may at least judge my worth at least equal to hers.

Even if my worth objectively isn’t higher than hers, act like it is. How will she know otherwise?

Remember Adam, you are above all others. You’ve known this for a long time.

3.) Every time I fail, I take one big step toward success: Failure is my teacher. With every failure, I can learn and adapt to what I did wrong and how I can correct it. It makes me stronger and increases the chances I’ll succeed in the future.

Let’s say I get rejected by a girl in an embarrassing way. Automatically, I’ll feel bad by drowning in a sea of negative thoughts. She thinks I’m a loser. I’m so ugly she doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. She thinks I’m scum of the Earth. Even if these thoughts were accurate a universal fact is that it takes an unknown amount of failures to achieve a single success. Statistically, being rejected actually makes success much more likely as long as I keep going.

Once I realized I learned something new from a failed approach, I can clearly see rejection and failure are absolutely necessary to succeed.

With rejection, I can learn what works for me and what doesn’t, while shedding the fear of rejection humans are born with.

The best strategy is to embrace rejection as an essential step on the road to success.

If I don’t accept this, I will not succeed with women.

Rejection is a barrier to separate the men who truly want to succeed and the ones who don’t.

Only adversity and rejection can strengthen a man, not success or comfort.

When I get rejected enough times, I begin to build a dataset of what works and what doesn’t to my unique personality, vibe, and environment.

If I’m failing soon after my approach, I know I’ll have to adjust my look, opener, or the type of girl I’m approaching. If I get alot of phone numbers, but girls aren’t responding to my first message, I know I have to strengthen the connection I make when first meeting them. If I’m getting girls back to my apartment, but they won’t sleep with me, I know I have to raise a girl’s level of comfort and trust at the key moment of intimacy.

Even if I can’t find a specific thing to learn from rejection, the fact that I did get rejected desensitizes me from future rejections. Strengthening my mental core. Paradoxically, rejection builds my confidence.