09/13/20 – First Instadate in Chicago

On Sunday, 09/13/20, I ventured off solo to Chicago, but decided to keep to the side streets instead of Michigan Avenue itself. In my experience, your game skyrockets due to the sheer lack of people around and consequently, girls tend to be more receptive.

Insomuch, I managed to snag my first ever instadate in Chicago.

So far, all of my instadates originated in college campus game. It’s uplifting to see I’m hooking sets off the streets.

Let’s get to it, shall we?

Approach #1: The Graphic Designer

Synopsis: A mile or so away from Michigan Avenue, I ran into this blonde, thin hard HB 6 who decided to go out for a walk. Initially, I thought she was hotter, but her mask/sunglasses combo fucked up that notion. She was cute, yes, but nothing spectacular.

At first, she was neutral, but as I kept persisting, she kept opening herself up to me. Eventually, we walked down the river and I pulled her into a nearby bar (which I thought was a coffee shop lol)

Unfortunately, my target told me she had a boyfriend! I still snagged the number and while I haven’t texted her yet, will plan to today to examine how solid it is.

Sticking Point:

Need more Man-to-Woman Conversation: Yes, I was Man-to-Woman at random intervals in the interaction, but not as much as I’d like. My set was mostly platonic, with bits of premise and evaluation sprinkled inbetween. Remember what JP said? If it fits the girl’s vibe, be inherently sexual.

What I Did Right:

Qualifications: While I wasn’t Man-to-Woman enough, I did qualify the shit out of my target. I intentionally found conversation bits she’d easily say yes to. It didn’t matter what it was; as long as she said ‘yes’. I strongly believe it’s what allowed me to snag the instadate + number.

Comments: If it fits the girl’s blueprint, exude sexuality in your set.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fW9ntEcq9fQ

09/10/20 – Don’t Kino In Set

This report will be short, sweet, and incredibly important.

Let’s make something clear: Kino is an essential aspect of game. Unfortunately, if I’m sloppy or my timing is waaaay off, my set will go from 100 to 0 in the blink of an eye. It’s painful watching a girl you’ve hooked immediately display disinterest so fuckin’ fast.

Henceforth, I’ve established a rule for myself:

  1. I will not kino my target at the initial approach during day game; unless it’s incredibly basic and non-invasive. For example, if I feel the urge to physically escalate, I’ll ONLY have the girl feel my hands and/or vice versa.
  2. See #1 above, I will not kino my target on an instadate. Be cool, flirty, and fun – escalation occurs during the first date.

With Rule #1 and #2 established, let’s get to the approach:

Approach #1: The Environmental Engineer (mostly good set)

Synopsis: After a few minutes at Marquette University, I ran into this adorable, dirty brunette girl sporting a pink face mask named Sam. She was incredibly sweet, receptive and passionate about environmental science. I must have performed damn well in set, because she agreed to go with me to a bar despite the fact she was going home for the day.

Set lasted a little over 20 minutes.

Unfortunately, while I performed admirably 15 minutes into the interaction, my game plummeted due to a number of factors detailed in the Sticking Point section.

At the end, I managed to snag her number, but it’s flaky.

Sticking Point:

Uncalibrated Kino: Yeah, she was into me; but I fucked up by hugging her far too soon. It’s needy, unwarranted so early in the interaction, and as stated above in my Kino Rules, didn’t do “baby steps” by touching her hand, tapping her shoulder, etc.

From Yes Ladder to Boring Guy: When I first met Sam, she was enthralled by my charisma, the fact I was so curious about her life and my “cool guy” game. At the latter end of our interaction – and I must be brutally honest – I was slightly nervous this instadate was going so fucking well.

It sorta helped I was on Adderall; but I started getting cottonmouth, my verbal game became “playing not to lose”, and overall, I slowly but surely became boring as we walked toward the bar.

The “Negative Ladder”: As a crescendo of my game session with Sam, she was a strong believer of the lockdown and the COVID-19 threat. I stated I’m a “bit of a troublemaker” and played into her honest concerns. Overall, it made me looked like an asshole and shot a bullet into whatever life was left in our interaction.

What I Did Right:

Fun, Cool Guy Frame: At the initial interaction, I opened Sam with a confident, fun vibe. Most of our interaction was amazing; she was engaged, I played to her blueprint; insomuch, while I offered to take her to Starbucks, she suggested we get a beer instead. That was fuckin’ awesome.

Successful Implementation of the Yes Ladder: During the middle of our interaction, I successfully utilized the so-called “Yes Ladder” on Sam which further amplified my “cool guy” factor. I simply called back old conversation topics we discussed and had her agree to shit she’d obviously say yes to before instadating her.

Comments: No Kino (unless it’s simple hand touching) until the first date.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAWHouri6nc

09/09/20 – How to Get Out of Your Head

The man himself

This report will be short, sweet, and incredibly educational.

So, I’ll be honest: I’ve been getting in my head during my day game cold approach sessions. It’s primarily due to the fact I have to go through 15-20 minutes without spotting a viable target in a sea of college students. Once I find a target, I have to ensure they’re either a 1-set (aka isolated) without anyone else around.

This is easier in college campuses, yes, especially inside study centers where the girl is bored out of her mind studying.

… But lots of times I see targets strolling around outside. Or worse yet, I see a perfect opportunity, but somehow, I’m not “in state” and my set goes to shit.

How can I rectify that?

I went day gaming at Marquette University today and I discovered that if I “Sasha Daygame” a target from far away, I fare better; especially if I’m in my head.

Girls are far more open, friendly, and receptive.

Henceforth, I’ll retain two essential notes when it comes to game:

  1. If possible – particularly if I’m in my head – Sasha my target by running toward her and open with, “Excuse me, I’ve never burned so many calories just to talk to a girl before.”
  2. Do #1 first, the endorphins in my head releases before opening an indoor set. I’m much more energetic, charismatic, and confident when I open an indoor set after I Sasha the first one.

09/03/20 – Success in UWM and the Importance of Mindset (Essential reading)

On 09/03/20, I ventured off to UWM at it’s second day opening. Needless to say, and surprisingly enough, Marquette University is poppin’ far more than UWM. I saw quite a few students wandering around campus, but it’s a far cry compared to UWM’s populace pre-lockdown. It’s a blessing and a curse since I’m able to sparingly approach sets, but when I do… no one is eavesdropping.

However, I learned an essential day game lesson when it comes to approaching. Girls are able to intrinsically sense when you’re nervous, or not all there, when you approach them. It’s an energy that radiates from any pickup artist – whether he’s a complete newbie or been gaming for years.

Let’s get to the approaches. I’ll explain why.

Approach #1: The Tie Dye Latina

Synopsis: I ran into my first set at the entrance of UWM’s main campus, sporting a tie dye shirt, scrolling through her phone. She was 18-20, Latina, cute, but unfortunately wore a mask. When I opened, I was able to hook my target within seconds by approaching with a clear mindset, confidence, and a deep, rapport breaking voice. Unfortunately, it was too short so I wasn’t able to make the most out of it.

Sticking Point:

– While my open was good… it wasn’t optimal. I initially screwed up by stuttering and trying to follow an “opening script” (ie. “Excuse me, I’m sorry but you looked incredibly cute and I had to say hi”), but I tried too hard. Therefore, I had to reopen AGAIN and it came out great.

– Didn’t do many observations, perhaps a few cold reads, but that’s it.

What I Did Right:

– My (second) opening was spot-on.

– Gamed the Latina according to her blueprint. Came off a little strong, but toned it down to establish comfort.

– Tried instadating a few minutes after the initial approach. Most importantly, after establishing some trust and comfort.

– My mindset, above all else, was spot-on. I walked toward her with an air of confidence, a clear mind, and the fact I wanted to meet this girl and make her day. Didn’t have any anxiety – well, perhaps a slight amount, but nothing noticeable.

Comments: Remember, mindset is key.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNdYgcZ40IY


Approach #2: The Random Girl on a Bench

Synopsis: After walking around for 20 minutes, I got in my head. Not due to AA, but rather, being bored. It’s tedious searching for one-sets in a sea of girls who’re at least coupled together. Not to mention the Coronavirus really dampened college admissions.

Anyway, I saw a girl sporting a fit body, dark brown hair, and olive tan skin chilling on a bench near the Arts facility. As I approached her, I was still “in my head”, so to speak, and my open came off half assed. I mean, she thanked me and was flattered, but I immediately got the “I have a boyfriend” excuse.

It was short. Lasted 30 seconds or so.

Sticking Point:

– How did I fix this? I searched deep as to why I performed poorly on my second set. After realizing how shaky and cautious I sounded on the open, I immediately realized it was because I wasn’t aware. Yeah, I knew she was cute, isolated and I wanted to talk to her…

… But as James Marshall states, if you’re not present in the interaction the girl simply isn’t interested. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

What I Did Right:

– Did the open… that’s it for this one.

Comments: Be aware. Be present. If you’re still “in your head” when you spot a set, meditate briefly and focus your energies in the moment.


Approach #3: The Clandestine Lesbian

Synopsis: A few minutes after my second set, I realized I wasn’t aware in the interaction which killed it so quickly.

I meditated – cleared my mind of all intrusive or “bored” thoughts – for a moment, allowing myself to fixate on THE GAME and my overall objective.

At the end, I met this cute, baby-faced, but incredibly ADHD white girl who just turned 18. She was highly receptive… but definitely a chick you wouldn’t want to put your dick in. My target had extended mental issues beyond her ADD. You could tell. She seemed spazzy af.

While our interaction lasted 20-30 minutes and she agreed to an instadate, I could tell she was getting bored during the end-tail of our set. Therefore, I just checked out with a phone number.

She sent me a text a few minutes later, stating I was cool and nice… but she had a girlfriend lol and couldn’t wait to tell her about me.

I laughed it off and said I was happy I made her day.

Sticking Point:

– This is a weird one. My target was the definition of bipolar. She’d laugh hysterically when I said she was cute or did something “adorable”. Other than that, she was mostly neutral or her mind wandered off elsewhere.

Maybe find other receptive targets instead of wasting so much time on crazy girls?

What I Did Right:

– Was able to switch game mode “on” after meditation. It showed when I opened my target.

– Gamed well. Played to win, not to “not lose”.

Comments: Avoid crazy bitches.

08/30/20 – Missed Opportunity

On Sunday, 08/30/20, Chris and I ventured off to Chicago for another day game session. I’d say this is the most bittersweet game I’ve had in a while – if ever. I secured a solid phone number, yet I missed out on instadating an incredibly sweet and friendly German visitor.

John Sonmez was right. My game lull was temporary and I feel far more invigorated to game than I ever have.

Let’s get to the approaches.

Approach #1: The German Flight Attendant

Synopsis: When Chris and I walked along Michigan Avenue, a cute German national sporting a brown trenchcoat, elegant clothing, along with blonde hair and blue eyes passed me. As always, I opened directly and was pleasantly surprise at how receptive she was. Our conversation lasted approximately two minutes, give or take, but…

She offered me to walk with her to TJ Max.

… And I said no.

As a flight attendant, I figured it wouldn’t be a big loss since she was leaving Chicago tomorrow. Looking back though, I realized I could have easily capitalized on my opportunity and gone for a same day lay.

I mean, she was practically throwing the opportunity in my face!

I reeeeeally hated myself afterward.

I don’t want to beat myself up too much, but she was incredibly cute, yet sophisticated. I felt I spat on her face when I said ‘no’. This set served as a powerful learning lesson to NEVER miss out on opportunities.

Stay. In. Set.

At all costs.

Sticking Point:

– Rejected her advances to walk with her to TJ Max. Felt like a major idiot. Never again. Remember: Stay in set. You can always capitalize later on in the interaction.

What I Did Right:

– Didn’t hesitate on the approach.

– Capitalized on her receptivity.

– Read her blueprint well and accordingly vibed with her personality.

Comments: Even if I think the set is a no-go (ie. She’s leaving tomorrow, she has a boyfriend, etc)… just stay in set anyway.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tx8YxekPOA


Approach #2: The Hipster Poncho Girl (how is she solid? I don’t know.)

Synopsis: At the middle of our day game session, Chris and I decided to get buzzed (as is our tradition) at a local Asian bar. After getting sufficiently intoxicated, I took an elevator down to ground level to smoke a cigarette. As I turn to my right, I see this cute girl sporting a large black poncho, brunette hair, and Romanian-esque features.

I opened with a direct friendly compliment, before we began chatting. In all honesty, I thought the set suuuuuucked. I spoke too fast, mostly had platonic conversation, etc.

I managed to snag her number, and…

Somehow we’re texting back and forth. She texts back fast, too. Like, once every two minutes.

The game, man. Shit’s weird… a satisfying weird!

Sticking Point:

– Spoke too fast

– Platonic conversation

What I Did Right:

– Very genuine direct friendly opener. It’s probably why she stuck around and texting me back every other minute.

Comments:

– I will say one thing though: While my target is texting me back, she’s very neutral. Need to up my text game.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ArGf4lGEcTE

08/27/20 – Success in Marquette

On 08/27/20, I ventured off to Marquette University after six months of waiting for the next semester to start and the lockdown to end. Needless to say, I’m performing better infield than I did prior to the lockdown. I nearly had an instadate and I secured a semi-solid phone number.

I believe the secret is going direct on college girls. They’re more receptive to Man-to-Woman interactions since they’re not ruined by hordes of thirsty dudes in bars/clubs.

I managed to secure five approaches, but only two are worth writing about; namely, the semi-solid phone number and near instadate:

Approach #1: The PA Student

Synopsis: After entering Marquette’s Student Union facility, I walked downstairs and saw this hard HB 7 sporting blonde hair, green eyes, and writing an A&P report. She was incredibly friendly, receptive, flirty, but a bit too extroverted for me. I joked with my wing that she’s the type of girl who’d cheat on you after two years of dating.

My game was pretty fuckin’ on-point. I established premise, read the girl’s blueprint correctly, spoke slowly, and had witty banter that lead to a solid phone number… at first. After a few texts, I’m not getting any further responses.

Sticking Points:

– My target was the definition of true neutral. She wasn’t attracted or unattracted to me at first. I had to game her in order to get a solid phone number. Perhaps, I shall spend less time on them and move onto more receptive girls.

– Possibly implement more premise?

What I Did Right:

– Read the girl’s blueprint accurately. My set was a party girl going into the Physician’s Assistance program. Consequently, I ran calm, cool guy game.

– I was on Adderall (without food) all day when I gamed this set. I was incredibly single-minded in my endeavors. Quite possibly, I’ll utilize this drug on game weekdays.

– My instadate close was unique and in accordance with the girl’s blueprint. “I know this is going to sound sporadic and totally spontaneous! But… I know there’s a coffee shop nearby and you NEED a break.” Didn’t work since she was busy, but damn, I bet if I used this again on college girls I’ll be dating in no time.

Comments: Adderall is king. College day game is king.

Audio recording here (private): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7RoPnqIA42w


Approach #2: Claire, the One that Got Away

Synopsis: My greatest success, yet my greatest failure of the day. It’s the yin-and-yang of my game session. At the tail end of Marquette University day game, I ran into this 4 foot something college girl sporting brunette hair, small tits, small ass, and a strong babyface.

She was surprisingly warm, yet simultaneously neutral toward my advances. My target – named Claire – took a few minutes to warm up. Given her introverted nature, I figured speaking slowly, discussing nerdy topics (ie. Star Wars, fictional novels, etc) would open her up.

It did.

I made a mental checklist to travel from location-to-location to establish what Todd V calls “narrative”, or your story with the girl. We met on the streets -> walked to the college garden -> Offered to instadate her at a local Boba Tea.

She accepted without hesitation. As we walked and talked, I felt our energy grow in depth, as I began knowing her as a person. I could feel the set getting warmer, stronger, before… I fucked it up.

I hate saying this, but I possess strong beta tendencies. I get attached to a specific target if she fits my criteria. She knocked off most of my checklist.

I don’t know why, but I started getting too attached. I offered to walk her home, gave her a “cutesy” nickname of “Claire Bear”, and said I’d love seeing her again.

It reeked of beta weakness and neediness.

I felt she noticed my sudden change in demeanor and her attraction plummeted; with the crescendo occurring right after we discovered Boba Tea was closed.

Claire said she had to return home… and I offered to walk with her. I was persistent, which is good, but too persistent? Nah, that’s what killed the interaction. I wasn’t persistent – I was needy. She could feel the vibe.

At the end, I got her number… but it was a flake.

Sticking Points:

Remember: Game your type like you would any ‘ol girl down the street. She’s not special, don’t you DARE think you can drop the “cool guy” act. It’s why she’s attracted in the first place.

– If she states she has to go, don’t offer to walk her home. Take her number and buzz off.

– Do better research on the locale. Find out what shops are open and closed. Take advantage of that.

– If you feel your attraction is higher than the girl’s, step back. Take a breath. Remember this can EASILY go down a dark road that leads nowhere. Play it cool, don’t display your true emotions.

What I Did Right:

– Read Claire’s vibe and blueprint correctly. It’s what got her to open up in the first place.

– My target was willing to go on an instadate! Our interaction was good since I (mostly) played cool guy game early-mid set.

– Storytelling! I was pretty detailed and specific with my storytelling that got Claire hooked during the middle of our interaction.

– The set was mostly good, particularly during the beginning and middle. It’s at the end when things started going sideways. Don’t recall only the bad, but the good as well. Keeps you motivated. Makes you remember you’re growing as an aspiring pickup artist and things can only get better.

This is a journey, not a race.

Comments: Remember, all girls are the same. Don’t treat any one of them differently. Even if you think they’re “special”.

Audio recording here (private): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmKPOhyfCVY

08/25/20 – Getting My Skill Back!

Colleges are back open, baby!

On Tuesday, 08/25/20, I ventured off to Carroll University and was pleasantly surprised: Female students littered campus grounds. It was fuckin’ awesome. I’ve been anxiously awaiting the return of college campus game and the wait is finally over!

I managed to secure three sets, however, only two are worth writing about:

Approach #1: The Environmentalist

Synopsis: She was technically my second approach after half-assing my first set at Carroll. My target was thick, writing a book report on Christianity, and a strong environmentalist. I’d personally rate her a soft HB 6. I did an observational opener (“Excuse me, you look very relaxed right now”), before running game.

At the end, I got her number, but it was a flake.

Sticking Point:

– Didn’t establish enough premise. Lots of cold reads and game-y techniques, but didn’t state what the conversation was about. I don’t recall any Man-to-Woman premise statements that could have turned the conversation from, “Oh hey random, fun guy” to “Damn, this boy is cute and flirty!”

– Went too far with the “I’m waiting for a friend” conversation. I believe I talked about my imaginary “friend” so much that she began taking an interest in him and searched him up. That MAY have been the part that fucked me in set.

What I Did Right:

– Spoke in a calm, confident manner. Very proud of myself because of that.

– My verbal game is on the rise again, woo! John Sonmez is right: Your game has it’s high points and it’s low points. I’ll get good… and then regress… but I’ll have a new baseline of success. I can only get better and better after that.

Comments: I believe I’ll start going direct outside campus or if my target is isolated and is my type.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aY_CXEUyJys


Approach #2: The Italian Mechanic Girl (fuuuuuuuck!)

Synopsis: My favorite, final, and most regrettable set of the day. I met my target at Carroll University’s library. She was brunette, tied her hair into two braids, had an adorable babyface, and an innocent demeanor. Our interaction was… well… you’ll see on the “Sticking Point” section. I don’t want to beat myself over this, but god damn, I need to stop pushing my targets away.

Remember what JP said: Tons of pull, one strong push.

Sticking Point:

– Far too much push in set. While I was flirty, I gave the subconscious message of, “You and I aren’t going to get along. Really, we’re not going to get along. You’re too outdoorsy and masculine for me,” instead of playing into her hobby.

If I had to re-do that set again, I’d be closer to, “Oh we’ll totally kill it riding ATVs together” or “I’ll be the cute, yet clueless guy trying to change the tire, while you change an entire transmission in 10 minutes flat.”

– Tried evaluating my target by having her do something for me despite the fact I was giving out negative energy.

What I Did Right:

– My first time going direct during college campus day game. It worked like a charm and didn’t require additional labor to get the girl to like me.

– Was able to hook the set for a little.

Comments: Remember, tons of pull, with one strong push.

Audio recording here (private): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mL8iXmd5LeI

08/16/20 – Starting to Learn Blueprints…

On 08/16/20, I ventured off to the Woodfield Mall in Chicago alone to adjust to operating as a solo PUA once again. Chris and I have become too reliant on each other; consequently, our game suffers when we break off to different neighborhoods in Chicago.

However, while on the road, I listened to a Natural Lifestyles podcast which explained what ‘direct game’ truly is. Yeah, saying “I thought you were cute” is fine if you’re starting off – but let’s dig deeper.

What vibe should I give out if I met a cute girl sporting glasses, kinda geeky, and looks inherently introverted? “Excuse me, I’m sorry, but I thought you looked adorable, and I had to say hi,” but in a genuine, low-energy, kind of shy way.

The above applies to Eastern European immigrants as well.

Now, let’s give another example:

What vibe/open should I give out if I met a stereotypical hot American girl sporting jorts, wavy blonde hair, and sunglasses? “Excuse me, I’m sorry, you have the cutest fucking look and I had to say hi,” genuine, yet flirty, fun, higher-energy, and confident.

By utilizing James Marshall’s lesson on true direct game, every set I opened in Woodfield Mall was receptive and open. Buuuuuut…

Another flaw reared it’s ugly head: I half-stepped everything. Do you know when you’re attracted to a girl, but you’re unsure if she’s your type so you play it safe? That’s what happened.

Consequently, the girls intuitively knew I wasn’t fully aware in set and every interaction lasted a minute or two at most.

It makes sense. Would YOU want to be second best in a relationship?

I believe my half-stepping stems from the fact I view each and every girl I approach as a long-term mate. It’s my unfounded fear of knocking up a rotation or falling for a girl that isn’t “my type”. While my ultimate goal in game is having deep and meaningful relationships, I do want to casually date for a few years.

Anyway, due to this, only two sets are worth noting:

Approach #1: The Latina Tattoo Artist

Synopsis: When I first arrived at Woodfield Mall, I ran into an incredibly cute Latina. Heavily tattooed, tiny overalls, red highlights in her hair, loved rap and reggaeton. She was receptive, despite the fact I’m an Asian dude sporting business casuals without a single tattoo on my body.

Buuuuut… I started asking myself, “Damn, yeah, she’s cute. But I don’t know if she’s my type. I mean, aren’t a shitload of tattoos a red flag?” Despite the fact I was 10-15 minutes into the set lol… and I want to casually date.

Initial 10-15 minutes was good, but after that, started half-stepping the set due to internalized questions that made me doubt the quality of the girl. 

Sticking Point:

– Why did I half-step? If you think about it, I approached her with the intent of gaming her to my best ability. I was good for 10-15 minutes. After getting in my head, the set turned to shit as I began half-assing or utilizing bad game techniques I knew wouldn’t work (ie. “You seem pretty cool and I’d hate to miss not seeing you again… what’s your number?“); needy shit.

What I Did Right:

– I’m able to fairly accurately read vibes / blueprints of girls. For example, I saw she had a party girl vibe, but she looked tired and blank. So I opened with, “Excuse me, I’m sorry but I thought you had the most adorable fucking look and I had to say hi.” Confident, calm, slow speaking, and good body language.

It worked like a charm.

– I’m starting to get comfortable operating as a solo PUA instead of relying on Chris to voice my inner thoughts and winging.

Comments: Remember, I plan to casually date. It’s fine if I get a Latina or Black side chick. No harm, no foul. Just buy lots o’ Plan B.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wx40h8tix1I

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Approach #2: The Goth Girl

Synopsis: An hour or so after hitting up the Latina, I met this cute 19 y/o goth girl at the mall. She was objectively cute, I’d guess a soft HB 7, but her outfit threw me off: Black astronaut boots, an oversized sweater which went to her knees, etc.

Yeah, I planned to game her like any other girl, but then I started asking myself, “Would I really want to be seen with her? Is she really my type? Goth girls are feminine, sure, but they’re also strange. Hell, look at her outfit!” And that’s when I half-stepping the shit outta that set.

Needless to say, she caught on pretty damn fast. Set lasted exactly two minutes.

Sticking Point: Same as the Latina, but half-assed right off the open. As time went on, I became more and more hesitant. Got more in my head. Fucked up receptive sets that could’ve led somewhere. Began playing not to lose instead of playing to win.

This set in particular I was hesitant af.

What I Did Right: Once again, I read her vibe / blueprint correctly. Goths are generally internally negative, but outwardly positive in my experience. Possibly shy, outcasts, but pretty. With that in mind, I opened with, “Excuse me, I am sorry, that look looks absolutely adorable on you… and totally like out there. It’s unique, I love it.” She responses with a bright, “Thank you!”

My vibe was slightly shy, but genuinely intrigued by her look. I didn’t throw a high-energy, confident vibe like I did with the Latina tattoo artist.

Other than that, my opener was fine, but adding the “… and totally like out there. It’s unique, I love it,” is a bit try-hard. I should have just said, “… and I had to say hi.”

Comments: Hesitation leads to no dates, no numbers, nothing. If I’m not going to do my best in set, why approach?

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNXaHzltqTU

08/7-9/20 – Little Big Lessons

On Friday, Saturday and Sunday, 08/07-09/2020, Chris and I did a three day game stint in Chicago.

While driving, we listened to a Natural Lifestyles podcast and one of their tips caught my attention: “It doesn’t matter if you approach directly. Saying ‘I thought you were cute and I had to say hi’ without emotion is just words to a girl. At most you’ll get is ‘Oh thanks’ before she walks off. Add emotion. Be aware and present in the interaction.

As if by luck, I also discovered an optimal stopping method which nets me the most results: The Police Stop. You don’t approach from the side or behind. Simply hold your hand up when the girl is walking toward you a fair distance away and say, “Excuse me.”

I don’t know what it is, but girls seem far more receptive when approaching in-front of them.

Implementing those two tips drastically improved my game. A ‘eureka’ moment for day game, you could say.

Anyway, three approaches were worth recording. So let’s get to them.

08/08/20Approach #1: The Croatian Receptionist

Synopsis: After leaving the Cloud Gate statue, Chris and I ran into this well-dressed Croatian American woman sporting a brown pencil skirt bottom and a white dress shirt top. She had a bouquet of roses between her arms. Did a “police stop” on her before she gave a big ‘ol grin.

She was receptive right off the bat. Very friendly. Gave me her phone number. It was solid. Unfortunately, she wants to be friends. Damn.

Sticking Point:

– After I naturally start using emotion in my sets, I seriously need to focus on calming down and speaking slower. I spoke waaaaay too fast in set.

What I Did Right:

– James Marshall was right. Implementing emotion and awareness in the opener was paramount for success. With it, I’ve had less “Oh thanks” before the girl walks off and more sets staying so I can run my game.

– I didn’t hesitate. I saw her. Thought she was absolutely adorable and went for the approach with a blank slate.

– I want to reiterate how important adding emotion to the set is. JP stated it doesn’t matter how long the set is, but rather, what you do within that 1-2 minute timeframe with the girl.

My set with the Croatian was literally one minute, 30 seconds long. By displaying emotion in the set, the number was solid.

Comments: Seriously, speak slower. Control your excitement.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03kf3WjxQSY&t=1s

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08/08/20 – Approach #2The Utah Mormons

Synopsis: A little before meeting the Croatian Receptionist, we ran into two Mormon girls from Utah chilling on a bench. My target was a soft HB 8, red dress, incredibly attractive, and friendly – but not receptive. When Chris and I approached the girls, he immediately noticed a wedding ring on both their fingers that I didn’t see.

At the end, I didn’t get the number, but the set was decent.

Sticking Point:

– Didn’t read the girl’s blueprint. Cursed quite a bit. Ran “generic” game without calculating the girl’s personality.

– Was a bit confused since it’s difficult running game with your wing next to you. It’s not his presence, per se, but the fact you’re talking over him. Makes the set slightly chaotic.

What I Did Right:

– Once again, opened the set with an emotional oomph behind it. Worked pretty well.

Comments: Found out my target had a kid. Never date single moms.

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSk0VIeAFpY

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08/09/20 – Approach #1The German Volleyball Player (favorite set)

Synopsis: While buying a Dr. Pepper at WalGreens, I saw this gigantic German volleyball player who towered over virtually everyone there. She was a soft HB 8, small tits, mid-sized ass, and an athletic physique. Unfortunately, my mic slipped out of my shirt during this time, so a recording isn’t available.

I looked at the cashier as she walked out, put my Dr. Pepper on the counter and said, “Uhh, hold on for a sec” before darting outside to approach her. I came in the set with a ton of intensity, passion, and sadly, a bit of thirst. She was friendly, but overwhelmed (she literally verbalized it a few minutes into the interaction). I was a bit too direct.

Anyway, I discovered she was a foreign exchange student from Frankfurt, heading to New Mexico the next day, and was a staggering 6’3” tall compared to my 5’6” ass lol. My head craned up the entire set as we walked.

After the set, I met up with Chris at a Subway. His eyes bulged as he saw me walking side-by-side with her outside. His response? “Jesus Christ, now that’s a fuckin’ tree right there!” Shit was hilarious.

Sticking Point:

– Massively needed to work on reading this girl’s blueprint. She was reserved, very German in her accent and demeanor, almost serious. For example, at the middle-end of the set my target said she had a boyfriend. I responded with, “Well, obviously we won’t bring him on the first date,” and she seemed confused. As if she couldn’t comprehend American humor.

– While I added emotion on the opener, I need to regulate how much emotion I bring to the table. She was overwhelmed by how confident and assertive I was. More statements of empathy. Less thirst.

– Once she declared she was overwhelmed, I should have stepped back, “restarted” the interaction, asked her personal or non-threatening questions and established comfort. Not continue trying to spike value.

I need to learn how to be self-aware in the moment with calm, relaxed, slow and methodical speaking.

– Don’t be amazed by her height. I’m sure many guys are.

What I Did Right:

– Approached boldly. No hesitation. Didn’t care how tall she was. Hell, that accompanied by her looks emboldened me.

– Was able to hook for the first minute or two… before she began to get overwhelmed by how high-energy I was.

Comments: I need to learn how to be self-aware in the moment with calm, relaxed, slow and methodical speaking.

08/1-2/20 – Solo Gaming in the Big City

This report will cover a single approach on 08/01/20 and 08/02/20, both situated in Chicago.

On Saturday, 08/01/20, Chris and I ventured off to Chicago for another day game session. That particular Saturday wasn’t memorable. I got a single set that I thought was cool, very premise-y and sexualized, but nothing too big.

However, on Sunday, 08/02/20 was the first time I decided to solo day game in Chicago without relying on Chris. It felt… weird. Like, I was vulnerable; knowing that you’re completely alone with no friends to share your experiences with.

It wasn’t bad. On the contrary, it was quite good! It tells me I need to focus on operating as a solo PUA in “unexplored territory” and gives me a small taste of how I’d feel in EE countries when I expatriate there.

As stated above, I found two approaches worth writing about on Saturday and Sunday.

08/01/20Approach #1: The Polish Expat

Synopsis: At the Cloud Gate statue, Chris and I ran into an isolated baby-faced Polish girl. At a distance, she appeared underage. As I opened her, I discovered she’s a college student and was waiting for her Russian friends. Got a phone number. Sadly, was a flake.

Sticking Point:

– While I established premise, polarizing lines, I wasn’t able to hook the set. I believe it’s because I didn’t read the girl’s blueprint. She was an immigrant to the US from Poland. However, she lived here for a few years. I should have been low energy instead of my usual higher energy self.

– I speak waaaaaay too fast in set. Probably since I’m slightly nervous/excited. Need to tone it down!

What I Did Right: Effectively opened the set. Made her laugh a few times. Tried going for instadate early. Got number.

Comments:

– Blueprints are important!

– There are a ton of Slavs in Chicago

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHneppGorFQ&t=1s

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08/02/20Approach #1: The Russian Businesswoman

Synopsis: At Nordstrom on the Magnificent Mile, I ran solo and spotted this attractive Russian woman sporting a white dress shirt, tight black pencil skirt, and dirty blonde hair. When I opened her, I saw she was older. Early 40s, but a soft HB 7.

Set was short. Lasted a little over a minute and a half before it ended.

Sticking Point:

– She was an older business woman. Far too high energy. If I read her blueprint correctly, should have spoke much slower. Low energy. Logical since she’s Slavic.

What I Did Right: Very Man-to-Woman within that minute and a half. Very proud of myself for that. If she was a younger American girl, set may have gone far better. Tried leading the set. Lots of good qualities I displayed here.

Comments: I seriously need to focus on blueprints!

Audio recording here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQl-E9mNtyo

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A Note on Slavic Expats: While trying to impress a girl in set can be seen as try-hard, saying one or two words in their native tongue might give me brownie points in the interaction. For example, saying “privet” to the Russian businesswoman or “Dzien dobry” to the Polish expat.